Why Simplicity Is The Solution To Inner Peace.

Simplify your life

In an era where everything is supersized, googled, or upgraded, a decision can be the toughest thing to make when you’re bombarded with so many options.

With the holidays quickly approaching, it’s easy to get swept up into the pressure of consumerism.

“Buy this and it’ll improve your life. Buy that and you’ll look and feel better.”

We live in a noisy, fast and furious, and convoluted world where extravagance and excess is glorified.

We’ve grown accustomed to having our wants met toute suite, while ignoring our needs.  We’ve learned to drown out our inner voice and take heed to the advice of the Joneses.

What happened to good ole’ simplicity?

I’ve often asked myself this question, having awakened from my hypnotic trance of wanting, to focus on what’s really important in life. Less really can be more.

I’ve discovered that simplicity can be the solution to inner peace.

We’ve got the whole abundance thing; the highly distorted sense that abundance has more to do with acquiring stuff, going outside of ourselves, instead of feeling abundant within.

This illusory belief has resulted in a never-ending external chase, which lacks true fulfillment, and inner peace. It also leaves a rather large dent in your pocket book while you befriend your stress and anxiety as the norm.

How much stuff do you really need?

I recall reading an article on Facebook’s founder, Mark Zuckerberg about why he wears the same, grey T-shirt all the time, and I gotta’ tell you, I love his response:

I really want to clear my life so that I have to make as few decisions as possible about anything except how to best serve this community.  I’m in this really lucky position where I get to wake up every day and help serve more than 1 billion people, and I feel like I’m not doing my job if I spend any of my energy on things that are silly or frivolous about my life, so that way I can dedicate all of my energy towards just building the best products and services.

Not sure if many of us would be willing to go to that extreme, but he sure does make a good point about putting “first things first and keeping the main thing, the main thing”.

Imagine how peaceful your life could be without having to make a million decisions a day?

As the New Year approaches, now is a great time to start simplifying your life. You’ll find that when you get clear on what’s really important to you, you can purge the inconsequentials, so your life can become more aligned with your soulful desires.

What are you prepared to simplify in your life so you can live a more, peaceful, joyful, existence?

OR, need advice?

As always, I’d love to hear from you!

Do share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the rest of us below on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

To simplicity and inner peace!

All love,

Abby xo

 

 

Create The Reality You Wish To See.

Create the reality you wish to see

At the beginning of every year, I choose a theme of words that I want my life to reflect.

I’m a bit of a word junkie, and I like to use them as a guiding compass to assess whether my life is, in fact, reflecting the experiences I would like to have.

Also, and maybe most importantly, it allows me to honour living my truth.

This year I’ve chosen the following words: order, flow, joy, devotion, fun, play, love, harmony, elegance, grace, balance, expansion.

These words describe my higher self, and how I would like to feel in my inner world in order to manifest externally (in either my personal or professional life).

I then take it a step further, and creatively visualize my inner world in meditation as a vivid representation of these words in the form of a lush garden, flowing rivers, a beautifully decorated room with warm lighting which gives me a sense of feeling grounded, and at peace.

My world, my reality. 

That way, when life happens and experiences start to unfold, I can always refer back to my core for perspective. I can figure out what types of thoughts I’ve been having that conformed or deviated from my inner world theme to create the effects of my outer experience.

When there is inner alignment there is outer alignment.

Simple, clear, totally empowering and enlightening. And you can have this too.

Here are some questions I ask myself when I feel like things are not in alignment, and they’re things you can ask yourself too, if you’re feeling out of balance and looking for a way back to your inner peace:

1)  Are my relationships rich in reflecting love, truth, and harmony?

2)  Am I having enough fun and play? Am I devoted to my work and calling in life as reflected in my daily actions?

3)  Are my finances abundant and reflecting a sense of flow and ease? How’s my relationship with money doing?

4)  Does my home mirror the elegance, order, and beauty that my higher self describes so vividly in my inner sanctuary?

5)  Are my chakras balanced? Is my health in check? Am I taking good care of my vessel by eating the right foods that make me glow with vitality and good gut intestinal health? Am I exercising and moving my body enough?

The answers to these questions reveal how much you are in alignment with your higher self. They reveal the things that you deem sacred, and that represent your best self.

The overall goal though, isn’t perfection. Not by any means. Every one of us is a work in progress, but there are always tools you can use to get back on track.

I find this method so empowering because it brings me back to my truth, and shows me that I am totally, unequivocally responsible for my life.

As you are for yours.

The pen is in your hands, while the entire Universe is within, expressing itself through your own unique personalities.

When you open your eyes to see this, life can become a playful, colourful, joyful experience.

Now over to you, let’s have fun with this!

What are some words that you would like to use to describe the life you would like to live and reflect for 2017?

Or, need advice?

Do share with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

I am wishing you all your greatest year yet!

May 2017 be the year that you flourish and rise into all that you were created to be.

All love,

Abby xo

How To Talk With People You Disagree With.

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Confrontation and spirited debate: It can be awkward, it’s usually inconvenient, and can be a total vibe killer.

However, for the sake of better communication, sometimes it’s necessary to clear the air on occasion.

What do you think would happen if you approached your discussions in such a way that love, harmony and understanding were the intention as a way to create mutual respect for one another?

What if you could see with your heart?

Sometimes it’s not about being right, but about being happy.

There are ways to talk with people that you disagree with, the conscious way, (and in light of the recent election) as a means to advocate a dire need for healthy, dialogue.

I believe that healthy confrontation is a life-skill that is often overlooked, and needs to be developed in relationships because people need to know how to communicate with dignity and grace in the most peaceful way possible.

Miscommunication, assumptions, projections, things left unsaid, and stories all affect cohesiveness.

This is particularly true in most relationships, and affects progression on an energetic level; which can lead to grievances and grudges that end up weighing you down.

I’ve personally witnessed first hand as people are divided more than ever before, and are literally ending long-standing friendships due to opposing views and perspectives.

When ideologies and dogma takes precedence over divine qualities like compassion, kindness and understanding, I believe that we stray very, far away from the truth.

And when there’s no respect, there is no presence of love.

The following quote by Buddha, that can be used as a guiding principle when communicating, or confronting an issue the conscious way fills me with joy:

If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?

On that note, here are 4 tips to talk with people you disagree with:

1)    Set the intention for peaceful resolve ahead of time.

Intention is everything. If you launch into attack mode, nothing will be accomplished except for possibly fulfilling your need to be right.  A healthy confrontation will require you to go in with an open mind — and maybe more importantly — an open heart , so you can actually hear what the person has to say before rushing to judgement.

2)    Seek to understand, not to respond.

Your tender ego will naturally want to defend it’s own beliefs and assumptions. Try to remember that you (and your tender ego) are not on trial, and neither is the person that you’re having the confrontation with. Do your best to detach from the situation and look at it from their perspective. Be contemplative. Leave room to wonder. Open your heart and your mind before you respond. No two people think alike, nor do they see things differently. Seek common ground, you may not necessarily agree with their position, however, stick to the objective of resolve.

3)    Speak your mind.

Try phrases like:  

  • You know what, when you said [this], it bothered me.
  • Am I reading into this, or do you have an issue with something I said? 
  • I truly want to understand. 

Then give the other person the opportunity to respond, and listen intently to what they have to say. You may have missed something that could have rubbed them the wrong way. Again, this is not about people-pleasing, or about being liked. This is about seeking common ground.

4)    Apologize and be unapologetic at the same time.

Apologize for not understanding their feelings however, don’t apologize for your position. This is not about you being swayed from your convictions or integrity. You are simply acknowledging that their feelings matter. This doesn’t mean that you have to agree with the other person. It just means that you value compassion and understanding over conflict.

Please note that this is often easier said than done. However, if you check your ego at the door and approach the confrontation from a place of love, peace, and harmony, you’ll accomplish so much more.

And more importantly, you will be seeing from your heart, and isn’t that what matters most in the end?

With love & respect,

Abby xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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