The word alone can make people cringe.
Let’s face it, no one likes their cushy, comfortable life, or routine being shaken up.
To be honest, the thought of change makes my hidden OCD-tendencies rear an ugly head on occasion.
We all like to feel like we’ve got a hold of things, that we’ve got things under control.
Predictable feels safe, reliable, measurable, and secure. However, sometimes change is necessary for your evolution where you’re being pushed to expand.
I’ve been through several changes in my life and every single time I felt some form of discomfort because it’s natural to feel that way. The reality is, if you’re not feeling occasional discomfort, you’re just not growing or living for that matter.
Here are a couple of Universal signs to be mindful of when change is imminent in your life:
1) Loss of enthusiasm.
There are always moments when people plateau and lose enthusiasm however, there is a threshold point of no return where you just lose that loving feeling. When this happens it’s a clear indication that it’s time to switch things up. One of the quickest ways of changing the dance so to speak, is by changing your every day routine in order to adjust. Try taking another route into the office, get up earlier, go to bed earlier, switch your workout routine etc. By making these small incremental changes, you will strengthen your adaptability muscles for bigger changes.
2) You’re experiencing an inordinate amount of resistance.
Life has it’s fair share of struggles, that’s just how we grow. However, I’m talking about an inordinate amount of resistance, like when weird stuff starts happening that just doesn’t make sense. The kind that feels like you’re trying to squeeze a square into a circle. At some point, you have to make peace with the truth of the moment, surrender, go back to the drawing board and have a look at the blueprint and see if you need to take a different approach or path. It’s the small changes that can make the biggest difference.
3) You’re not growing.
When you feel stagnated, constricted, and under-utilized.
When you feel this deep yearning to unleash something within yourself (even if you don’t know what that is). We are all designed to creatively express ourselves fully and serve humanity in various forms. These are indicators that suggest it’s time to expand, and that it’s time to make a change, even if you don’t know how.
Change can be scary for many however, if you are willing to take the first step and make a decision, you’ll be amazed at the opportunities that will open up to you.
Now your turn:
Do you feel like you need a change in your life?
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Change my dear friends is certain and necessary for your soul’s evolution.
Embrace it, stay open and allow life to miraculously unfold to higher levels.
I once worked with a client that had a turbulent relationship for many years.
While speaking with her, we brought up the dynamics of her parents, as this often forms our beliefs about partnership on an unconscious level.
It was revealed that her mother was overly giving to her father in the sense of martyrdom; to the point of neglecting her own needs, which often left her feeling resentful and her father stifled. Her mother had manifested in the form of her husband.
Through her inner work, she realized that this unconscious programming of her mother/father relationship dynamic had become her marriage.
It was illusionary and co-dependant in nature, and not a real, romantic partnership of two whole people, loving and supporting each other.
We often re-create and manifest these types of relationships in our lives unconsciously, out of no fault of our own due to past conditioning because it feels familiar.
This can create an unstable foundation, which is fear based, and often leads to a lot of pain and suffering because the relationship is defined by how it feeds the wounded self.
In extreme cases, this could also affect one’s health and have a spiral affect in other areas of a person’s life.
The whole person is full of love, and gives unconditionally with no hidden agenda. They love, just because. This is divine love.
When we have the courage to examine our relationships from an internal standpoint, it will reveal if our relationships are authentic and true.
Brokenness attracts co-dependant, illusionary, relationships where both people are seeking love outside of themselves.
This can often lead to unhealthy attachments that requires either healing or cord-cutting at some point in order for both individuals to learn, grow and evolve.
True love is the opposite, it wants to give wholeheartedly with no demands. There are no expectations, because each person is whole.
The relationship is equal, complements one another and ultimately integrates into divine union.
Relationships are probably one of our greatest divine assignments in life in learning how to love and accept ourselves in totality.
While there are no mistakes, only lessons in life, I believe that the key to attracting healthy relationships is by becoming whole yourself which means loving, accepting and integrating all parts of yourself.
And when two whole people come together, that’s where the magic happens.
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To loving, healthy relationships.
I am a former people-pleaser, believe it or not.
I care, sometimes a little too much.
For a long time I was too nice, always treading cautiously. I danced around what I truly felt for fear that people would be disappointed in me.
I laugh to myself now at how much I’ve changed over the years, and finally found my voice.
Something magical happens when you let truth triumph. You begin to hear your inner voice more clearly.
It took years of inner work to find the courage and strength to be real, and to speak my truth, no matter what.
This included using the word no more often, to the things that didn’t jive with my spirit, like walking away from a deal that wasn’t congruent with my values. And not collaborating professionally when the energy was not in alignment. I’ve learned that it’s all about honouring my soul’s guidance.
It was a pivotal moment where I made the decision to become my own best friend, to trust my instincts and to love myself completely at the expense of outside approval.
And I gotta’ tell you how liberating and empowering it feels to no longer feel divided within.
To be at peace with yourself is a great feeling.
When you’re in people-pleasing mode, you’re often operating from the wounded self and you end up looking for validation outwardly because you don’t (or can’t) validate yourself inwardly.
This can become a downward spiral of compromise as you negotiate for your self-worth by agreeing to things that insult your soul’s truth. More often than not because you are seeking some form of belonging.
I believe that when your need for connection and validation becomes too strong, that’s when you learn to stifle and sacrifice your voice as a means of being accepted.
The crux of the matter though, is that every time you withhold your truth by not honouring how you really feel, you are not living in the space of your highest self.
Subconsciously you give your power away for the sake of being liked.
But guess what?
You’re allowed to say no just because you want to.
You’re allowed to set personal or professional boundaries without it hurting another person.
You’re allowed to disagree with someone else, and still maintain your integrity and respect.
Empowered living requires that you honour your truth so that you can ultimately live in the space of your higher self from a place of love instead of fear.
Learning to love and trust yourself is vital to your well being and overall development into a spiritually, mature whole person. On this week’s blog I share how our addiction to ‘people-pleasing’ can be detrimental to honoring our truth and soul’s guidance.
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I hope this message leaves you feeling empowered!