Managing your thoughts and making the conscious choice to think differently can be quite challenging. If you’re in a funky mood, maybe because you’ve woken up on the wrong side of the bed in the morning, or whatever the reason is, let’s face it – we all have moments when we’re just off our game.
The reality is, life is going to have its ups and downs. Stuff comes up, situations happen beyond our control, plans get derailed, and that’s just the way life is.
It takes discipline and time to master your mind, and happiness can be fleeting until new thought patterns emerge.
And so I say for the sake of practicality, why not shoot for experiencing more joy in your life by relishing in the practices that feed your soul?
Here are 5 tips you can use to bounce back from a funky mood in no time:
1) Relish in the simple things.
I’m a lover of simplicity, and always have been.
What are some of the simple things that bring you joy?
Is it taking a walk in nature? Writing, painting, or enjoying a nice dinner with the ones you love? Maybe it’s taking a luxurious candle-lit bath, with lavender and epsom salts (one of my personal faves!) Whatever it may be, find absolute pleasure in the things that bring you joy, and make time for them everyday. This can create a sustainable state of being, the simpler the better.
2) Judge others less
This is a tough one, but if you can make a commitment to reduce judgement, gossip, and finger-pointing, it can open you up to feeling a lot lighter and brighter.
When you judge other people, you separate yourself from them, and that is unfair because chances are the things you’re judging them for are the things you need to be looking at within yourself.
Speaking negatively about others depletes your energy, and only serves to bring more negativity into your life. You’ll find that the more you praise others, instead of judging them, you’ll not only feel better about yourself but you’ll draw more positivity into your life as well.
3) Maintain a daily spiritual practice.
Let me premise this by saying that a spiritual practice does not have to be religious in nature.
A daily spiritual practice involves any activity that brings you into a calm, meditative state. This can happen by simply walking in nature while taking long, deep breaths, listening to your favourite music, or lighting a candle to bring you into a zen space.
It is any activity that keeps you united to the core of your being while helping you feel connected with all things. I’ve found, through my own personal experience, that having a daily spiritual practice has helped me to check in with my internal guidance, while keeping me rooted, and maybe most importantly, it makes me feel supported.
4) Make ‘thank you’ your daily mantra.
A thankful heart will always position itself to receive more.
Gratitude is one of the fastest ways to shift your state from lacking to abundant. A daily gratitude log is a great tool to remind yourself to appreciate what you have, and spins your focus in a positive way. This can help ease the weight of your fears and anxieties.
Gratitude gives a nod to the Universe that says, “hey, I’m actually okay, thank you.”
5) Service heals – Give.
Give without any expectation in return.
When you give generously, with pure intention, you’re sending that message out into the Universe. This doesn’t have to be monetary in nature either, it can simply be your time with another person. Focus on giving to someone else so that you can take your mind off of yourself and your problems. Make someone in need your priority and watch how fast your mood changes. Things aren’t really that bad after all.
Living in a ‘I’ll be happy when…’ mentality can leave you feeling frustrated because you’re living for some indeterminate time in the future.
Live fully in the present, and work with what you’ve got right in front of you, right now.
Now over to you: What brings you joy in your life and how are you prepared to increase your joy?
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.
To all of the kind, loving, sensitive souls out there who have gigantic hearts.
This is for the empaths, the feelers, and the psychically attuned. For those of you who have the ability to tap into and absorb another person’s emotions with ease.
You are loved, and appreciated.
However, now is the time to talk about boundaries.
If you are feeling worn down by toxic relationships, or you find that certain people in your life suck the energy right out of you, it’s probably time for you to set healthy boundaries.
Toxicity is like a cancer, and once it takes root, it spreads and mutates with light-speed throughout all of your cells and your entire system.
When you’re having a conversation with someone, and it starts to go down hill, ever notice how your body starts to feel heavy, anxious and tight?
Before you know it, you become it by virtue of the fact that you are in close proximity. This is just how energy works.
I’m all for lending a supportive ear to people who need a shoulder to cry on; compassion is the glue that holds us together, and life can certainly kick the wind out of even the best of us.
But when a person chooses to wallow in self pity and victimhood? Or worse, continues to focus on the negative, even after a solution has been given? It can be tremendously taxing to your spirit, joy, and well being, to the point that you need to take a nap or give yourself a pep talk after you’ve spoken with them.
It can be tough, but I would definitely suggest severing the toxic relationships or toxic conversation pronto, but lovingly of course!
Drop it like a hot potato immediately, then send them off by saying a prayer, wish them a beautiful life, and carry on.
Don’t allow anyone to drain your precious life force energy. You deserve peaceful, harmonious, uplifting relationships.
When you allow toxic relationships to thrive in your life, (like the Negative Nancy and Doubting Thomas’s of the world), you become a portal for fear to enter your mind. All it takes is one seed of doubt to taint the lens of your perception, and to create fear-based, funky situations.
Only light sees hope and possibilities – let’s dwell there.
Here are 3 highly effective and loving tips to say goodbye to toxic relationships once and for all:
1. Speak your truth.
This one is for the brave and bold souls who are willing to have those sweaty palm conversations. When you’ve hit your limit with Negative Nancy, you can say something like, “Hey Nancy, I know you’ve been having a difficult time, and my only wish for you is to be happy, but I find our conversations lately to be quite heavy and I’d like to remain optimistic.” Two things can happen, either she appreciates your sincerity in telling her how you feel, or you become Public Enemy No. 1. If the latter, she’ll do you the favour of severing the relationship first.
2. Reduce the amount of time you spend with them.
Negative Nancies and Doubting Thomases come in all forms, and sometimes they’re in your family too. In those instances, you must manage the amount of time you spend with them because severing ties altogether isn’t always practical when it comes to your family. When you start to distance yourself slowly (and that means not taking their calls as frequently), they’ll either get the hint, or they’ll turn to someone else to dump on. Either way you’re off the hook.
3. Break up, completely.
This is the point of no return where you just can’t take it anymore. You’ve tried talking to them about your feelings and they’re just not getting it. You’ve tried to be supportive and loving but they just refuse to pull up their socks and look to the light. In the end, you need to make the best choice for you, even if that means cutting them out completely.
In the wise words of our beloved Buddha, “If your compassion does not include yourself then it is not complete.” It really is okay to put yourself first because only you are responsible for your own happiness.
Now your turn: Is there a toxic relationship in your life that needs to be severed? If so, do you have the courage to walk away for your own peace of mind?
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.
The shadow self is real. It resides within us ALL.
It cannot be denied, covered, or ignored. Eventually it will rear it’s head.
What we are witnessing in light of the recent atrocities and political upheaval in the world is the shadow of the collective ego, rising to the surface for healing.
It’s heart wrenching to watch, we too feel this pain as we’re all connected as one divine mind and heart.
We are in a global pressure cooker, and unfortunately it will only get worse before it gets better.
A spiritual, superstorm of epic proportions is unfolding right before our eyes and it’s time to pay attention.
You will witness your own shadow in moments of judgement of others. Your eyes naturally gravitate to what you see in your inner world. Blame, finger-pointing, avoidance, chastising others, yet there is the refusal to face your own demons.
Cause let’s face it – it hurts.
However, avoidance is expensive, and even more painful is the lack of consciousness.
I love what author Marianne Williamson has to say on the matter:
Until we have met the monsters in ourselves, we keep trying to slay them in the outer world. And we find that we cannot. For all darkness in the world stems from darkness in the heart. And it is there that we must do our work.
Which begs the question, where do we go from here?
What is happening before us is a call to action where prayer alone is simply not enough.
We can do our own part individually, by becoming more aware and introspective. Facing the shadow parts of ourselves with love and acceptance is where the healing happens.
It’s time to do the inner work as a collective because it cannot be delayed any longer — the very evolution of humanity is hinging on it.
What the shadow self needs more than ever starts with acceptance, then love, and then forgiveness. It does not need hate, nor further suppression or anesthetization. It certainly does not need ‘positive denial’ as that can only get stronger.
By forgiving yourself, you will in turn be able to forgive others. This will ultimately set you free.
Only love has the power to alchemize and transform that which restricts your higher self from emerging to the surface in your life. This transformation becomes the container of light for others to see their way through.
It is time to use this as an opportunity to wake up and stop taking the tranquilizing pill of gradualism. It’s time for us to find the courage and grace to answer the call now to make peace with ourselves.
That each of us can walk towards making the world a better place.
With unwavering hope,