How To Access Your Inner Power.

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Have you ever observed a person walk into a room with tremendous calm poise, and sense of confidence and thought to yourself, “what is it about this person that I wanna get to know?”

And I’m not talking about charm or charisma. This is the kind of person who sits at the back of the room, and emanates an incredibly powerful aura, but really has absolutely nothing to prove.

This is a person who is living from the space of their authentic power.

This person has a good sense of who they are and have no need to acquire power from any one, nor any external source.

Which brings me to inner power.

Inner power is knowing that you’re not alone. That you are connected to something far greater than yourself, and that your very life here has meaning, and a specific purpose.

You’ll also find that these extraordinary people are laser-focused on giving more than getting.

In fact, their entire mission is to provide tremendous value to the world, and to be of service. And because of this, they make exceptional leaders.

We live in a world where we’ve taught ourselves to believe that by the acquisition of things- titles, money, or fame- is what gives us power. Yet none of these things are real, nor has any sustainability, because these things are fluid.

Have you ever witnessed someone at the top of their game in their business, and when the market crashes, they practically lose the shirt off their back?  Or, have you ever experienced being so in love with someone, only to one day have the relationship end?

These things happen.

Seasons change, and by seeking your value and sense of self worth in the attainment of material things, or in the external influences of your life (which can include people), you end up trapped in an illusionary state of being.

You end up chasing the things of the world, inevitably seeking your identity in others.

In order to validate your existence externally, you wind up disconnected from your Source/Spirit/Self, and, that which gives you life.

There is nothing wrong with having ambition, and enjoying the material comforts of this world.

But there is a greater power that gives us more security and holds the key to our true identity.

There have been great leaders who have proved this time and time again. One of them was Nelson Mandela, who spent 27 years of his life imprisoned, ridiculed, disgraced and wrongfully convicted.

Yet his humorous response when asked how he did it was, ”I went for a long holiday for 27 years.”

If this isn’t grace, I don’t know what is.

Just for a moment, imagine what it would be like to be incarcerated for 27 years for a crime that you didn’t commit.  How would you manage?

I’m sure many of us would fall into a deep, dark abyss of depression and feel completely powerless and hopeless.

Yet this wasn’t the case for Nelson Mandela. He never allowed his external circumstances to influence his internal power.

He chose, even in the face of death itself, to remain hopeful. He really was an extraordinary leader who lived from the space of his authentic, inner power. His legacy will live on.

I think we can all take a page out of his book. Lead your life from within, and do not feed off of the accolades, milestones, and trinkets that you acquire in this life, but rather, live from the space of your soul. Ultimately, you will find the utmost fulfillment in your life.

What does authentic power mean to you, and how do you exude it in your everyday life?

OR, need advice?

Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

Live powerfully my friends.

With love,

Abby xo



Forgiveness, The Daily Practice That Could Change Everything.

Forgiveness frees

When someone expresses to me that they are having a very difficult time in life, one of the first things I ask them is if there are any grievances, or resentment that they are holding onto in their hearts.

I’ve discovered through personal experience that holding onto resentments can weigh you down tremendously.

Not to mention the amount of energy you could dispense replaying that grievance over and over again in your mind. Which, let’s be honest, can be exhausting and soul-sucking, and totally debilitating to your spirit, your creativity, and your enjoyment of life overall.

And that’s just on the physical level.

On a spiritual level, this can throw you completely out of alignment with the flow of your life because metaphysically speaking, thought becomes form.

So in instances where you are harbouring negative thought patterns, riddled with emotions of anger etc., it will eventually manifest into an obstacle of some sort that acts as a vibrational match, which can begin to make your life pretty difficult.

I believe this is how the Universe works.

This can also lower your vibrational frequency. A lot.

When your mind is attached to a past hurt or grievance, it can:

  • cause general distress
  • cause dis-ease to the body
  • block your chakras
  • block your creativity
  • and disturb your peace.

The root of all grievances is judgement.

Judgement is the ego’s way of separating itself from Spirit and saying “I’m right,” — but this comes at the cost of your happiness.

And, when you make judgements you cut yourself off from the greater whole, and fall out of grace.

Here’s the good news, however, you live in a very loving, self-corrective Universe that loves to shower you with affection. You just have to get into agreement with it by letting go of your grievances.

By implementing a daily practice of forgiveness, you can set yourself free, and clear your energy.

This can allow you to fall back into a state of grace.

Whenever you feel the compulsion to judge, or replay a grievance in your mind, gently forgive each thought as it comes up, and set it free; it’s that simple.

Make forgiveness a daily practice and it will clear all of that dense energy, so you can feel happier, and lighter. It will also allow you to free yourself from a lot of the heaviness that’s weighing you down.

When you initially start letting go, the ego will put up a relentless fight to hang onto a grievance, or an offence, in order to separate itself from Spirit.

Ego will want to prove itself to be right so badly, eventually though, the light will begin to expand, and your ego will give up the fight because love is so much easier and lighter.

When you do this, you fall back into alignment with the flow of life, you free your heart of all that is getting in the way of you receiving your good.

Forgiveness can be tough, but it can free you by releasing pent up energy.

It doesn’t mean that the situation that is the focus of your negative energy is fair or just, it just means that you love yourself enough that you no longer want to carry the burden of that energy around with you.

Now over to you:  Do you currently harbour any hidden resentments that are weighing you down? If so, are you willing to release them for the sake of your happiness?

Or, need advice?

Do share your heartfelt thoughts with the rest of the community on the blog so that we can support you.

I hope this message empowers you to reflect on any grievances that you are holding onto in your heart so that you can find the courage, and grace, to release them.

Your goodness awaits!

All love,

Abby xo




How To Deal With Difficult People.


Whether it be friends, family, co-workers or anyone in between, most of us have been faced with a difficult person at some point or another.

A person that, no matter how much you reason with them, somehow always gets on the defensive. Like a caged animal, they end up attacking you by zoning in on a single problem, which can be quite taxing to your spirit.

The truth of the matter is that this person is a wounded soul that’s screaming for love and attention, but it’s disguised in their anger.

However, only you are responsible for the energy that you put out into the world, and unfortunately, the Universal laws do not take a hiatus when life kicks the wind out of you.

Just as a cluttered work place can spiral out of control, demotivate you, and impact your productivity, the same rules apply to your soul work: by allowing negative thoughts and emotions to fester, you risk descending into a downward spiral where negativity can take over your life.  

We are all divinely linked as part of a greater whole, and that means that we have the capacity to feel each other’s pain. For empaths, feelers, psychically attuned and super-sensitive types, setting personal boundaries can make the biggest difference.

Because it’s not just about us.

By awakening to this truth, we also begin to open our eyes to see that we are One.

We’re all in this together.

It’s a great act of loving kindness to lend a compassionate ear, and open your heart to people who are in pain, to let them know that they are heard, seen, and that someone actually cares about what they’re going through.

However, it’s also important to arm yourself against becoming a dumping ground of other peoples’ negativity by allowing your positive energy to be smothered out in the process.

Setting personal boundaries for yourself has more to do with self love, more than anything.  We all have the divine right to be happy. That happiness is a choice, though, and a habitual practice that starts from within. It rarely has anything to do with our external circumstances at all.

A person who is consumed with negativity contains a very dense energy. But what does that dense energy feel like? Here’s how you can tell:

  • You feel exhausted around the person
  • You feel drained in their presence
  • You feel that you yourself need a pep talk after having spoken with them

Here’s 3 Tips To Deal With Difficult People And Protect Your Positive Vibes:

1)  Manage the amount of time you spend with them.
Let’s face it, you love this person, you really do, and you so want them to be happy, but you love yourself too. You’ve gotta preserve your energy so that you can share your love freely with other people that also need it.

2)  Empower, don’t enable.
There is a big difference between the two. Empowering conversations will include compassionate listening followed by solutions. Enabling conversations, on the other hand, are full blown rehearsals of the same wound, over and over again, without the desire for a solution. It leaves the listener completely drained and exhausted. Same song, same story, no end in sight = not fair.

3)  Be love in the full sense.
Love is selfless, but that does not mean that you allow yourself to be drained completely.  Love for self is just as important too. Be loving, witness their pain, send them good thoughts, pray for them, then allow them to figure it out.

I know this may sound tough to do when you’re witnessing someone’s pain, but with a little practice, you’ll preserve that big heart of yours and keep spreading your light to the world.

After all, we need you. 

Now your turn, does this post resonate with you in any way?
Is there someone in your life that you feel that you must set some personal boundaries with?

Need Advice? I’d love to hear from you!

Please feel free to share what you’re going through in the comments section of the blog, and I’ll be sure to reply.

Huge love,

Abby xo

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