Let’s Stop The Cycle Of Suffering.

Stop sufferingI think we can all agree that the world is in utter chaos, and on the precipice of major transformation.

It is heart wrenching to witness all of the crazy-making and to learn week after week of such horrific violence and hatred.

It’s so easy to become apathetic or consumed with all of the darkness and negativity.

However, in the midst of a global crisis, I believe this is an opportunity for us to be the change we need to see in the world.

It’s time to make a commitment to free ourselves from our own internal suffering so we can make a difference in this world, one transformation at a time.

By examining your own internal thought life you can help to heal it through forgiveness and love so you can release it once and for all.

The truth of the matter is no person full of joy, peace and love in their hearts would consciously hurt another human being.

The great poet Rumi once said that, “the cure for pain, is in the pain itself”.

Therefore, we must have the courage to face our karmic thought patterns and behaviours so that we are consciously aware of the reality that is both inside us and around us.

Self awareness is the first step to inner transformation.

I believe with all my heart that you have the power to deliver yourself from negative, repetitive thought patterns that are getting in the way of you living your highest, most vibrant self.

This is about finding inner peace when you let go of your history.

This is an enlightening conversation that we can all join in together, to become more aware of our own self-defeating thoughts so we can stop the cycle of suffering.

Who doesn’t want to feel lighter and experience more joy?

Everyone is worthy of everything wonderful and fantastic in this life.

You can change the trajectory of your life by identifying your recurring thought patterns and habits that are getting in the way of your evolution.

It gives you the power to shift your life towards more joy, flow, and ease.

Relax into the thought of what it would feel like to be bright-eyed and hopeful for a better life. To believe with everything in your spirit that life is working for you, not against you. To know that love is always present, even in the storms of life.

Your thoughts have no meaning other than the meaning that you give them, and they are formed through the lens of your past conditioned beliefs.

The only thing real is love, and any unloving thoughts are a figment of your imagination.

Would you open your heart and mind to receive this? Could you?

You can use the following steps to help you stop your own cycle of suffering:

The first step is awareness.

The next step is forgiveness, by letting go of the past.

Third, discipline your mind to stay completely present, open, and clear so that a new story can begin to unfold.

It really can be that simple.

You can start by simply observing which thoughts keep recurring, and log them. A journal is a great way to record and pay attention to the words that you use during the day.

For example, a couple of key words to be mindful of, that can keep you stuck in the past:

“I used to be,”

“I remember when,”

“I was,” 

All of these words indicate that one is living in the past, and clinging to an illusion of what was instead of what is.

This can cause a lot of suffering and pain, because we are not living in reality, which is right now. Furthermore, we keep manifesting the illusion in the future, which leads to emptiness because it is not true.

When you have the courage to lovingly let go of the past, you can begin to end the cycle of pain, and place yourself on a new path.

A new experience free of your past pain, and an opportunity to choose again, and move towards a greater life experience.

Will you join me today and make a commitment to yourself to become more aware of your daily thoughts that are causing you pain?

Are you willing to do the work?

The light and love is there within us all, it’s who we are, but we must move through the darkness first, in order to see the light.

To freedom,

Abby xo

When Change Is Necessary.

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The word alone can make people cringe.

Let’s face it, no one likes their cushy, comfortable life, or routine being shaken up.

I’d be a hypocrite to say that the thought of change doesn’t make my OCD-tendencies rear an ugly head on occasion.

We all like to feel like we’ve got a hold of things, that we’ve got things under control.  

Predictable feels safe, and reliable, measurable, and secure. However, sometimes change is necessary for your evolution where you’re being pushed to expand.

I can recall a time in my life where the Universe made it super clear to buckle up, because a major shift was about to happen.

It all started in the home I had lived in for 7 years.

Stability is very important to me because I moved around a lot as a child. I also value stability because I feel I took a lot of risk in building my own business.

After 6 years in business, the whole thing was tanking hard, and I was really close to folding the business, which luckily I didn’t have to do in the end.

Panic set in because I had no idea what to do.

So I opened up about what was going on to my friends and family. And I cried about it.  And I flat out resisted the fact that I was going to have to make some changes; one of which would be that I would have to move.

Amidst my fear and emotional turmoil though, everything started breaking down in my home, literally. The fridge started giving me problems, the dishwasher flat out stopped working, and even the air conditioner conked out!

I felt like the Universe was saying, “move, or you shall be dragged!”

Talk about a swift kick in the butt. While I can find the humour in it now, it certainly wasn’t funny at the time.

But here’s what I learned from the experience.

I had outgrown not only my home, but the old me as well.  The new me was ready to grow, but the current space could no longer contain my expansion.

That is why everything started breaking down.

It was a sign that it was time for change.

Here are a couple of signs to be mindful of when change is imminent in your life:

1)    Loss of enthusiasm.

There are always moments when people plateau and lose enthusiasm, however there is a threshold point of no return where you just lose that loving feeling. When this happens it’s a clear indication that it’s time to switch things up.

2)    You’re experiencing an inordinate amount of resistance.

Life has it’s fair share of struggles, that’s just how we grow.  However, I’m talking about an inordinate amount of resistance. The kind that feels like you’re trying to squeeze a square into a circle. At some point, you have to go back to the drawing board and have a look at the blueprint and see if you need to take a different approach or path. It’s the small changes that can make the biggest difference.

3)    You’re not growing.

When you feel stagnated, constricted, and under-utilized.

When you feel this deep yearning to unleash something within yourself (even if you don’t know what that is) and it makes you feel sad, lethargic, or sometimes depressed. These are indicators that suggest it’s time to expand, and that it’s time to make a change, even if you don’t know how.

Change can be scary for many, but for the brave souls that are willing to take the first step and make a decision, it can liberate you from your imaginary shackles so that you can ultimately thrive.

Now your turn:  Do you currently feel like a change is necessary in your life? If so, do share with the community on the blog so that we can support you.

Or, need advice?

Please feel free to share what you’re going through and I’ll be sure to reply.

All love,

Abby xo







Your Thoughts Create Your Reality


You changed your friends.

You changed your job.

You changed your relationship.

You got yourself a personal trainer, took a vacation, got a new haircut, joined a group of like minds, and then bought the T-Shirt.

While these things are all positive changes, they are still outside of yourself and doesn’t really get to the heart of the problem - thought.

Because wherever you go, there you are.

I once had a very profound dream of floating under a balloon over land. I recall feeling so light, free, and fearless.

In the distance I saw a bridge which appeared to be over the ocean. I couldn’t stop the balloon from floating towards the edge, and so I began to get anxious as I approached the end of the bridge.

I recall thinking to myself “Oh my God, I’m going to drown! What am I going to do?” and in that exact instant, I fell to the bottom of the ocean and came back up for air.

I remember waking up from the dream and thinking to myself, “wow, our thoughts are powerful, fear is powerful.”

If I had faith that I was safe and secure, that the balloon would carry me over the ocean safely to land, I probably would not have drowned in the dream.

For whatever reason, call it a divine message or lesson, that dream became a catalyst for me becoming more mindful of the power of my thoughts, and the effects they have on my life.

It is common for people, on occasion, to blame their environment, outer forces, astrological forecasts, or planetary changes for what’s going on in their life, however, the one thing we fail to realize is that the power for change is within.

You are creating your own reality through the lens of your perception and by your thoughts.

And, until you get to the cause, thought being in this instance, you will keep a recurring cycle of undesirable situations —the same heart wrenching relationships with the same theme and conclusion; the same unfulfilling friendships that don’t nurture your soul; the same unfulfilling job that doesn’t match your gifts — because you haven’t changed the way you think.

Facing what’s really going on can have the most profound effects on your outer experience.

It’s the very thing that will set you free of the thought patterns that are getting in the way of you living your highest, most vibrant self.

Change your private conversations with yourself; change your life.

It can be as simple as logging your thoughts down in a journal and then retracing them at the end of the day.

This will require some introspection of course, and through this self-study, you will begin to reap tremendous rewards, if you’re willing to try.

Once you’ve identified your thoughts, try to recall the feelings that were generated with them. Your feelings affect your energetic state, and this will amplify the intensity and speed of manifestation.

A lot of us tend to walk around on auto-pilot due to past conditioning, because that’s all we know. However, with awareness, you can break this cycle of repetitive thought patterns, and choose to think and respond differently.

I hope this message empowers you to look within, and know that you have the power to change the trajectory of your life.

All love,

Abby xo









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