Don’t Become Part of Someone Else’s Illusion.

Woman yelling

Any of these statements sound familiar?

I can’t believe s/he said that about me!

That jerk just cut me off!

I’m going to give that person a piece of my mind!

Those haters, who do they think they are?

While you’re sitting there fuming, the person you’re freaking out about is moving on with their day, without a clue how infuriated you are, and couldn’t care less.

Think about it, your stress level is increased; it distracts you, and generally, it puts you in a pretty terrible mood.

So how’s that working for you?

When you invest your energy by pointing the finger at someone, and placing blame outside yourself, the only thing you will succeed in doing is giving your power away. That’s precious energy that you could be using to fuel your dreams.

The moment you rise to attack, fight, or defend yourself to another, you become a part of their illusion.

The things you choose to focus on expand.  That means the more you fixate on the other person’s behaviour, the more you expand the negativity around you the more you become one with it.

There’s no magic to this, it’s flat out metaphysics.

The very first lesson of A Course in Miracles states:

“Nothing Real is threatened. Nothing Unreal exists. Therein lies the peace of God.”

In other words, if you are safe and secure being you, then why would you have to prove yourself to another?

How a person sees you is based on the lens of their own perception.  If you’re a negative person, that’s all other people will see. It’s a clear indication that you’re trapped in the insanity of your illusions, because the only thing real is Love.

Anything other than that is a figment of your imagination and a product of your altered reality.

When someone chooses to point the finger at you, it becomes a conflict within themselves.  It has nothing to do with you; their anger really has nothing to do with you. That’s why there’s no need to defend.

Think about that for a sec. 

Why did you feel triggered by what the person had to say?

I want you to really think about it for a moment. In fact, I want you to close your eyes for a moment and ask yourself these questions:

Why is what this person said affecting me so much?
Why am I so upset about what they said? 

Was there any part of what they said about you that you find within yourself to be true.You know, the parts about you that don’t quite like, but have tried to hide from the rest of the world (including even yourself?)

When you expand your level of awareness, you will begin to see every encounter as a healing or teaching opportunity as you learn more about yourself. 

And so, the very person that’s spewing out unsavoury remarks to you may actually be divinely used to heal a part of yourself.

The beauty of it all is that our world becomes magical when we awaken to the school of life before us.  By becoming more in tune with yourself you will heal and transcend your karmic patterns that are getting in the way of your spiritual evolution.

Transformation begins to happen as our perception shifts from fear to love, and we return home to who we really are - a beautiful, magnificent, human being filled with so much love and light to give the world.

The next time someone gives you the finger, talks bad about what you’re wearing, or performs whatever negative action they may have taken against you, and you feel the steam rising to the surface within you, free yourself of the negativity by saying quietly in your mind, I release all grievances with this person, I forgive this person, I forgive myself, and I now set myself free.

Then watch through the lens of your perception how easy it will be to return back to Inner Peace.

Face your truth with courage and grace my friends, your freedom awaits!

With love,

Abby xo



Knowing The Difference Between Entitlement and Worthiness.

Work for it

Today I want to talk about something that’s been weighing on my heart. It’s about knowing the difference between the spirit of entitlement, and worthiness.

We are all humans who have desires and goals.

Ambition is a good thing when fuelled with the desire to make a value-based, meaningful contribution.

Material success is also a wonderful thing as it can be used as a tool for creating massive impact in the lives of your family, and those in need.

However, success comes with a price, and you have to earn it.

Yes my friends, the world owes you nada.

You’ve got to work for it.

I’ve silently witnessed the hunger in people to succeed; but there are those who want to short-cut the steps by copycatting their way to victory, instead of doing the work with pure-hearted intention.

It hurts me to see this because I view it as an insult to their soul, their own inner power, and their creative potential.

Why emulate the archetype of another when you are designed with hidden gifts and talents of your own within you to serve?

Excuse my bluntness, but I find this a form of laziness, and quite frankly, trying to be an overnight success and not doing the work isn’t going to cut it.

This is not the way to long-standing sustainability because nothing authentic lives and creates a legacy.

It is a very short sighted approach and a diss to your dharma (purpose) and your divine gifts — the ones we’ve all been blessed with.

Entitlement creates the attitude that life owes you, while your inner belief of worthiness wants to create value and serve.

I’ve witnessed this first hand with candidates in the Executive Search business over-valuing themselves with a sense of entitlement, and not doing the work like everyone else by honouring the steps. Not to mention the haughtiness and poor attitude that come along with that entitlement.

This is not to say that you can’t jet set your way to the top with proper mentorship, (some people work with velocity), however, entitlement is different. It’s ego-driven. Arrogant. And it’s not humble at all.

Many people want it all, and don’t realize that the steps prepare you. If you can’t manage small things with excellence and commitment first, then how in the world are you going to handle, greater success? The answer is simple; you won’t. You’ll crumble.

What the world really needs are true devotees who are willing to pay it forward, roll up their sleeves, get to work and serve selflessly with love in action.

There is joy in work, mastering your craft, whatever that may be. It’s about honouring the process with loving care and attention.

A great sense of fulfillment comes with a job well done and meets the needs of those we serve.

All of a sudden, you feel a surge of elation, your life becomes more meaningful with a sense of direction and purpose.

And while we all encounter the struggle that comes with the price, it becomes a valuable learning experience that shapes and molds our character.

The work is the journey, and a gift that prepares us for the destination.

Why not enjoy it and embrace it with all of its ups and downs, instead of short-changing ourselves of the experience by arriving too soon.

Let’s honour the steps and trust that life is ready to serve those who are willing to make the sacrifice.

All love,

Abby xo





The One Thing That Might Be Compromising Your Happiness.

Happiness compromised

The journey on my spiritual path has been quite interesting to say the least, especially the part of merging Western philosophy with Eastern philosophy.

Western philosophy has taught us to live by doing. It has certainly ignited the course of innovation.

Eastern philosophy, on the other hand, shares a slightly different perspective that might seem more radical to Western ideology — which leads me to question if there is a different way; a more graceful one.

One where there is nothing to prove, but just be ourselves, fearlessly.

What if there was nothing to get, chase, or plot for?  What if it was okay to just be our magnificent, whole selves without needing anything at all?

At first I thought this way of thinking was a little too esoteric, New Age, and filled with fairies and unicorns for my taste. I mean what do you mean we shouldn’t have any desires?

What does that even mean!? 

It’s not like I was going to pack up, and live in an ashram somewhere on a mountain and meditate all day, right?

Well, it turns out that I’ve personally discovered some wisdom that abolishes a ‘wanting’ state. That which causes us the most pain in our lives, is wanting something to be other than it is right now.

Wanting stimulates our vices to rage war within us like pride and ego.

Sound familiar:

“I deserve this,”

“How dare I be deprived of this,”

Essentially we have an internal temper tantrum because we’re not getting what we believe to be right and true for us in the now.

This state of what I like to call, “I gotta get something,” robs our peace of mind in the present in every way possible, strengthens the outer mask of the Ego and it’s me-centered mentality and makes us miserable.

The ultimate freedom then, is to remove wanting from our lives so that we can return to our true state of wholeness and lack nothing at all. This is called gratitude.

Out of nothing, we can allow everything beautiful and prosperous to unfold in our lives.

I must warn you, that this state of nothingness at first can feel like you’re being lazy and unambitious. Your first reaction will be, “Omigosh, I gotta’DO something dammit,” or “the sky is falling and I’m not doing anything!” 

It’ll drive you crazy.

It’s kinda like when I reached the place of Meditation after practicing for hours on end, where I experienced the moments of sheer silence, where I felt completely weightless, no rambling in my mind at all, just pure stillness. I remember thinking, wow, this feels amazing — no anxiety whatsoever, just pure peace of mind. 

Graceful living is awakening to the truth that we are One with all that is, that we are not separate from the Universe.

When we come to this realization, we fall into a state of flow and ease, rather than pushing and chasing. Things come to us, rather than us having to seek them out because we have connected to the core of our being.

This is not to say that we cannot have a vision in life, or work towards it.

It just means that instead of being so futuristic in our minds all the time, and clinging to the end result, we can approach our vision knowing that it is already done. Knowing that we already have what we need to accomplish it.

It’s easier said than done, but something worth pondering in the name of peace and joy.

So now over to you;  what are you clinging to in your mind that is getting in the way of your peace of mind? I’d love to hear from you!

OR, need advice?

Please share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

P.S. Looks like our beloved Buddha had a point after all, when letting go of wants and finding peace.

All love,

Abby xo

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