I was chatting with a friend of mine the other day about all the struggle that’s been in the air lately.
It’s polarizing too, like hearing about both awesome things and crises at the same time. It’s like the weeds are growing together with the harvest, and there’s nothing in between.
It can really feel like a party crasher if you’re not deeply rooted.
What comes to mind is some sort of a Universal shift or transition that’s occurring once more, which is bringing up all kinds of past situations, repetitive cycles that you thought you learned and got over, but that you’re faced with yet again.
I found myself reflecting recently, and I thought that we need to be more compassionate and gentle with ourselves in order to get through this transition, as a collective, with grace.
The tragedy in Manchester, UK yesterday, with the terrorist attack where children were the casualties, innocent children that just attended a concert with their friends to laugh and have fun, reminds you of how fragile life can be.
It’s during these moments that the sensitive heart needs nurturing and self-care in order to restore balance and peace.
Here are 4 ways that you can find peace during a tumultuous time:
1) Root down and stay grounded.
When in the midst of chaos, I’ve found that sticking to some form of routine or ritual helps me feel more in control of my surroundings. Discipline can actually be a saviour until the storm passes. Find a routine that works for you and stick with it.
2) Up your spiritual practice.
Whether your spiritual practice is meditation, prayer, yoga, walking in nature etc., now is the time to step it up to stay connected to your core. This will help restore balance in your life so that you can respond to life’s challenges from a clear, rationale space.
3) Tone down watching the news.
While it’s wise to stay informed and be aware of current events, try not to get too consumed with the media. Preserve your mind, and peace, in order to put things into their proper perspective.
4) Be kind.
People are really intense and fearful, now more than ever, and one of the best things you can do is pull people into your peace and just be kind. Kindness and compassion go a long way, and it helps give faith in humanity.
Let’s use this as an opportunity to shine a bright light into the world, that each of us can walk towards making the world a better place.
I used to stifle my emotions, and I was quite good at it.
My automatic response when someone asked how I was doing (when I clearly wasn’t doing well) was, “I’m ok, really I am.”
Can you relate?
I was taught to believe that expressing my emotions was a sign of weakness, so I intellectualized what I felt. I put on my reasoning cap, became overly diplomatic and sacrificial in expressing what I truly felt, and this created layers of blockages.
It wasn’t until I crossed paths with an incredible Life Coach a few years back that brought this mind-centered way of thinking to my attention, and helped me to release all of the pent up energy that manifested itself in my body.
This was a pivotal point in my journey because my life started to take off in a more authentic way; a way where I no longer had to fear revealing my vulnerability; a way that I could tap into my power and strength by embracing all of me.
While I believe that there is a wisdom in not allowing ourselves to become a slave to our emotions, I also believe that we do more harm by not expressing them, or worse, suppressing them.
Your emotions are the triggers that let you know something is out of harmony within, something that needs to be brought to the forefront for healing.
When you suppress your emotions, it inevitably creates barriers and blockages in your heart.
You avoid facing your truth.
By not expressing your emotions, you bear the risk of becoming desensitized, less compassionate, and less empathetic.
And, the things that you resist, persist.
Try and think about these questions for a moment:
- How can you build healthy, authentic relationships in your life without expressing your emotions?
- How can you grow closer to someone by living behind a mask?
- How can you teach your children to become whole people by not allowing them to witness your emotions?
- How can you be a relatable leader in your life when you don’t reveal your true self?
And while there will always be moments in life where you can’t let it all hang out, it is a great practice, to embrace the entire spectrum of emotions, even sadness, anger, etc.
You must feel these emotions, witness them, allow them to flow through you. However, don’t allow them to take root, for they are only transient and are there to make you more aware of what needs to be healed.
I believe that the more in tune you become with your emotions, the more you open the door to a greater understanding of yourself.
By doing so, we will all live more powerfully and authentically in the space of our true selves.
Over to you: Do you have a difficult time expressing your emotions? What is it that keeps you from expressing them?
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments on the blog with the rest of the community and I’ll be sure to Reply.
Cheers to having the occasional meltdown.
It really is okay.
Managing your thoughts and making the conscious choice to think differently can be challenging, especially in a place of uncertainty.
The reality is, life is going to have its ups and downs. Stuff comes up, situations happen beyond your control, plans get derailed, and that’s just the way life is.
People are often more upset about how things are unfolding, because on some level they feel like they have lost control. Yet it is in these moments that you must strengthen your faith-muscles and trust that all things work together for your highest good, even if it makes you feel out of control.
It is your belief in something greater that will light the direction of your path and keep you feeling safe, loved, and secure at all times, even when things don’t make sense.
You can experience joy even in uncertainty, however, joy is something you generate from within.
When you experience a feeling of joy and elation, you are tapping into your real self and your connectedness to love. One of the fastest ways of experiencing joy is by dwelling in a state of thankfulness in your heart, and reminding yourself of how good things really are.
You can also sustain the feeling of joy by relishing in the practices that feed your soul.
Here are 4 tips for experiencing joy in the midst of uncertainty:
1) Relish in the simple things.
I’m a lover of simplicity, and always have been.
What are some of the simple things that bring you joy?
Is it taking a walk in nature? Writing, painting, or enjoying a nice dinner with the ones you love? Whatever it may be, find absolute pleasure in the things that bring you joy, and make time for them everyday. This can create a sustainable state of being; the simpler the better.
2) Maintain a daily spiritual practice.
A daily spiritual practice involves any activity that brings you into a calm, meditative state and keeps you connected to your soul. This can happen by simply walking in nature while taking long, deep breaths, meditating, listening to your favourite music, or lighting a candle to bring you into a zen space.
It is any activity that keeps you connected to the core of your being. I’ve found, through my own personal experience, that having a daily spiritual practice has helped me to check in with my internal guidance while keeping me rooted, and more importantly, it makes me feel supported.
3) Make ‘thank you’ your daily mantra.
A thankful heart will always position itself to receive more.
Gratitude is one of the fastest ways to shift your state from lacking to abundant. A daily gratitude log is a great tool to remind yourself to appreciate what you have, and spins your focus in a positive way. This can help ease the weight of your fears and anxieties.
Gratitude gives a nod to the Universe that says, “hey, I’m actually okay, thank you.”
4) Service heals – Give.
There is something so beautiful and cathartic when you can give generously, with pure intention. When you help someone else in need, it helps you take your mind off of yourself and your problems. Help someone in need, and watch how fast your mood changes.
I’ve test driven these practices in my own life during moments of the seemingly impossible and they work!
Living in a ‘I’ll be happy when…’ mentality can leave you feeling frustrated because you’re living for some indeterminate time in the future.
Experience your joy by living fully in the present, and working with what you’ve got right in front of you, right now.
I hope this message empowers you to remain in joy no matter the circumstance around you.