I recently attended a comedy show in support of an old client of mine who happens to be a fantastic comedian.
There were about 4 or 5 comedians that performed and totally had me in stitches. In fact, each performance had the natural ability to make fun of some of their own challenges in life.
And I thought to myself, ‘Wow, that’s power!‘
To take your own misfortunes and turn them into a comedy skit, make people laugh, and forget about their own, is an incredible gift.
I believe that comedians are healers in disguise.
The path to healing is a life-long process that will require a lot of patience and gentleness with yourself.
Throughout your life, you are constantly shedding away your past, your old habits, and those patterns that continue to surface in your life. There are so many layers of mental constructs, false beliefs and stories that are deeply rooted within that takes time, sometimes lifetimes to heal.
Just when you think I’ve got it, I’ve finally got it!, someone will say, or do something that can trigger you so deeply that pain (and many of your old patterns) can come back to haunt you.
Just when you think, I’ve met the one, you realize that it’s the same guy, but in a different suit.
Just when you think, I’m doing so well by eating healthy, you hit the local Tim Horton’s, look at the menu and order the same donut with the sprinkles on it.
It can be incredibly frustrating, but you are a human being, and you’re going to slip up.
And that’s okay.
If you can’t laugh at yourself on occasion, you’re taking life way too seriously.
There are times that you’re going to break your diet and put the weight back on until you stabilize.
You’re going to believe your stories.
You’re going to put your foot in your mouth sometimes.
You’re going to skip the gym or yoga class, procrastinate, miss your meditation practice, stop your exercise regime, and the list goes on and on.
Because it’s never about the destination. It’s everything we learn throughout the journey.
One of the most important lessons that I have learned over the years is to be gentle with myself, laugh more, and lighten up!
I took myself way too seriously for so many years and fell into the trap of trying to be perfect.
The journey is not about perfection, it’s about being real with oneself and loving what comes up, even the emotions that we sometimes feel uncomfortable with.
Cause and effect is one of our greatest teachers. And when you can demonstrate more compassion to yourself for the divine lessons that are unfolding in your life, you’ll really be able to open yourself up to the divine.
Everyone makes mistakes. That’s how we learn.
If you can learn to accept your imperfections, forgive yourself more often, and change your dialogue of constant self-criticism so you can speak to yourself in a more loving way, miraculous shifts can occur in your life.
Do you know that laughter is spirit? In fact, there is nothing heavy about spirit. So the question is, why are we so hard on ourselves when spirit is light?
So the next time you’re about to slip up?
Go easy on yourself and laugh.
Allow yourself to be a human being, be willing to see the lesson in it all, and try again next time.
To being real.
Have you ever looked at your mile-long ‘To Do’ list and felt your entire body tighten up with anxiety?
Having experienced this before, I had to put my own advice into practice, and listen to what my body was telling me. I needed to allow myself to have some downtime (phone off kinda downtime), to restore my energy.
Self-care is so important. Your life has a pulse and a rhythm, just like the symbol of infinity.
It’s important for us to remember to get off of the treadmill of life on occasion, and slow down.
Sometimes you need to take it easy a little, and nurture yourself.
I’m a go-hard kinda person, I love to work and I enjoy being productive.There’s something beautiful about consistency and keeping momentum.
It’s like running a marathon, pacing yourself to the goal, while refining each step in the process along the way.
There’s a natural ebb and flow, and sometimes there is a need to press in, and sometimes there’s a need to fall back. It’s up to you to respect that ebb and flow, and honor yourself in that process.
There are times when we get caught up with the ‘doing’ and less with ‘being’, and the result is exhaustion.
When we’re in ‘being’ mode, there’s no pushing; things fall together, we’re more balanced within, and aligned. Thus we fall into a natural state of flow.
‘Doing’ mode means living too much in the future, so we push. You end up putting more on your plate, which takes a toll and depletes your energy in the process.
And while the ebb and flow is necessary, we must find that delicate balance and dance between making it happen, and allowing things to happen.
Sometimes ‘busy-ness’ forms a distraction that drowns out your inner guidance that is whispering that we may need some rest.
I learned this valuable lesson when I started out in the Executive Search business where I’d be working on a deal to meet monthly targets. But the more I pushed, the more resistance I experienced.
I can recall getting frustrated because I kept focusing on hitting the future target, that I was blinded to all of the signs in front of me that were telling me to fall back for a bit, and not to force the deal.
The moment I detached myself from the outcome, though, and took a step back, the deal always came together.
Sometimes the life lesson is to let go of attachments and allow things to unfold the way they will.
Final thought: It’s ok to work diligently towards your goals (whatever that may be), but every so often, make sure you check in with yourself and fall back a bit to allow the Universe to do its thing.
Over to you: Have you ever experienced being mentally and physically exhausted? And if so, what did you do to replenish yourself?
Or, need advice?
I’d love to hear from you!
Please feel free to share your heartfelt comments with the rest of the community on the blog so that we can support you.
Final thought: I’ve learned that the Universe has a miraculous way of expanding time for you if you listen to the guidance.
Rest easy, you can slay later.
I was having a conversation the other day about motivation, and what truly moves people to create and execute their heart’s desires.
My friend and I both agreed that two things usually have to happen to ignite the spark within to push yourself forward.
Pain, and inspiration.
If you think about the times in your life that you felt backed against the wall, did it move you into action and survival mode?
How did you feel in your body? Heavy, tight, constricted, perhaps?
No matter how you felt though, you pushed through it anyway, and made it happen.
But what if there were a better way?
How would you feel if you knew that you could not fail, and that love is ever present, within you, surrounds you and is in all things?
Would you feel secure, loved, and supported?
What if there was a fun, playful, and inspiring way of being moved into action?
You’d probably accomplish far more from this place.
When you tune into the frequency of love, you operate from a place of abundance, which attracts far more wonderful experiences to unfold in your life.
Fear on the other hand, can also move you into action.
However that comes with a lot of strain, along with a scarcity mindset that invites more strenuous events into your life.
We are living in an extraordinary time of consciousness-elevation at a rapid rate of acceleration.
This means that grace is present more than ever before. All the pushing, straining and striving with old paradigms no longer apply.
In many regards, people are unlearning this old, antiquated fear-based paradigm of relying completely on your own strength, and learning to walk in tandem with the Universe.
I spent many years of my life operating from a survival mentality, and while it worked, it caused a lot of strain and stress.
It is for this reason that I am so passionate about believing in a better way, a more graceful way of living.
It is your divine birthright to be happy, healthy and prosperous; if only you could surrender your agenda to allow the Universe to work through you.
This is not about living a ‘challenge-free’ life by any means, because challenges help you grow. They can also activate hidden gifts and talents already within us.
However, the choice to react and respond with love can make all the difference.
I hope this message empowers you to trust life and know that you are loved and always supported.
To trusting in the magic and wisdom of the Universe.