I used to stifle my emotions, and I became quite good at it.
My automatic response when someone asked how I was doing (when I clearly wasn’t doing well) was, “I’m ok, really I am.”
I was taught to believe that expressing my emotions was a sign of weakness, so I internalized what I felt.
I put on my reasoning cap, became overly diplomatic, and sacrificial in expressing what I truly felt. This created layers of blockages.
It wasn’t until I crossed paths with an incredible Life Coach a few years back, who brought this way of thinking to my attention. It helped me to release all of the pent up energy that had manifested itself inside my body.
This was a pivotal point in my journey because my life started to take off in a more authentic way; a way where I no longer had to fear revealing my vulnerability. It was a way that I could tap into my power, and strength, by embracing all of me.
While I believe that there is a wisdom in not allowing yourself to become a slave to your emotions, I also believe that you will do more harm by not expressing them, or worse, suppressing them.
Your emotions are the triggers that let you know something is out of harmony within yourself. It’s something that needs to be brought to the forefront for healing.
When you suppress your emotions, it inevitably creates barriers and blockages in your heart.
You avoid facing your truth.
By not expressing your emotions, you bear the risk of becoming desensitized, less compassionate, and less empathetic.
The things that you resist, persist.
Try and think about these questions for a moment:
- How can you build healthy, authentic relationships in your life without expressing your emotions?
- How can you grow closer to someone by living behind a mask?
- How can you teach your children to become whole people by not allowing them to witness your emotions?
- How can you be a relatable leader in your life when you don’t reveal your true self?
While there will definitely be moments in your life when you can’t let it all hang out, it is a great practice to embrace the entire spectrum of emotions, even sadness, anger, etc.
You must feel these emotions, witness them, allow them to flow through you. However, you mustn’t allow them to take root, for they are only transient. They are there to make you aware of what needs to be healed.
I believe that the more in tune you become with your emotions, the more you open the door to a greater understanding of yourself.
By doing so, you will live more authentically in the space of your own true self.
Over to you: Do you have a difficult time expressing your emotions? What is it that keeps you from expressing them?
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments on the blog with the rest of the community, and I’ll be sure to reply.
Cheers to having the occasional meltdown. It really is okay.
Managing your thoughts and making the conscious choice to think differently can be challenging, especially when you’re in a place of uncertainty.
A lot of times you’re more upset about how things are unfolding, because on some level you probably feel like you’ve lost control. Yet it is in these moments that you must strengthen your faith-muscles and trust that all things work together for your highest good.
It is your belief in something greater that will light the direction of your path and keep you feeling safe and secure at all times, even when things don’t make sense.
You can experience joy during times of uncertainty because joy is something you generate from within.
When you experience a feeling of joy and elation, you are tapping into your real self and your connectedness to love. One of the fastest ways of experiencing joy is by dwelling in a state of gratitude.
You can also sustain the feeling of joy by relishing in the practices that feed your soul.
Here are 4 tips for experiencing joy in the midst of uncertainty:
1) Relish in the simple things.
I’m a lover of simplicity, and always have been.
What are some of the simple things that bring you joy?
Is it taking a walk in nature? Writing, painting, or enjoying a nice dinner with the ones you love? Whatever it may be, find absolute pleasure in the things that bring you joy, and make time for them everyday. This can create a sustainable state of being; the simpler the better.
2) Maintain a daily spiritual practice.
A daily spiritual practice involves any activity that brings you into a calm, meditative state and keeps you connected to your soul. This can happen by simply walking in nature while taking long, deep breaths, meditating, listening to your favourite music, or lighting a candle to bring you into a zen space.
It is any activity that keeps you connected to the core of your being. I’ve found, through my own personal experience, that having a daily spiritual practice has helped me to check in with my internal guidance while keeping me rooted, and more importantly, it makes me feel supported.
3) Make thank you your daily mantra.
A thankful heart will always position itself to receive more.
Gratitude is one of the fastest ways to shift your state from lacking to abundant. A daily gratitude log is a great tool to remind yourself to appreciate what you have, and spins your focus in a positive way. This can help ease the weight of your fears and anxieties.
Gratitude gives a nod to the Universe that says, “hey, I’m actually okay, thank you.”
4) Service heals.
There is something so beautiful and cathartic when you can give generously, with pure intention. When you help someone else in need, it helps you take your mind off of yourself and your problems. Help someone in need, and watch how fast your mood changes.
Living in a ‘I’ll be happy when…’ mentality can leave you feeling frustrated because you’re living for some indeterminate time in the future.
Experience your joy by living fully in the present, and working with what you’ve got right in front of you, right now.
For the quality of your life depends on it.
It is of no surprise to all of us that the world is going through a very crazy, turbulent time.
It’s polarizing to hear about both awesome things and crises at the same time. It can set you on an emotional roller coaster, and create a feeling of helplessness if you’re not deeply rooted.
It seems as if this Universal transition that’s occurring is bringing up all kinds of repetitive cycles that we’re faced with yet again.
The gripping fear, anger and resentment is palpable, and in most instances, expected.
I found myself reflecting that we need to be more compassionate and gentle with each other in order to get through this transition, as a collective, with grace.
The heart breaking tragedy in Las Vegas this week, the mass shooting, where people just attended a concert to enjoy themselves, reminded me of how fragile life can be. It’s an indication of how disconnected people feel and is a reminder to us all that you truly don’t know what people are going through behind the scenes.
It’s during these moments that the sensitive heart needs nurturing and self-care in order to restore balance and peace.
Here are 4 ways you can find peace during a tumultuous time:
1) Try your best to root down and stay grounded.
When in the midst of chaos, I’ve found that sticking to some form of routine helps me feel more in control of my surroundings. Sometimes maintaining the bare essentials is enough to keep you grounded. Discipline can actually be a saviour during the storms of life. Find a routine that works for you and stick with it.
2) Up your spiritual practice.
Whether your spiritual practice is meditation, prayer, yoga, walking in nature etc., now is the time to step it up to stay connected to your core. As a daily meditator for the past 4 years, I can tell you that it has made a huge difference on my life. Finding the discipline to sit in meditation even for a few minutes daily, will help restore emotional balance in your life so that you can be more present, aware, and respond to life’s challenges from a calm, clear, rationale space.
3) Try to tone down watching the news.
While it’s wise to stay informed and be aware of current events, try not to get too consumed with the media. I’ve gotta’ admit, with the recent events, I too took the bait, cried and watched the news, because I care; it was heart breaking. I believe that pain affects us all because we are all connected. Apathy doesn’t serve you as a global citizen, neither does denial. We must have the courage to face these issues head on in order to get through them and be the change. However, there is such a thing as over-stimulation, and energy is everything! You must find the resilience to preserve your mind, and heart, in order to put things into their proper perspective.
4) Be kind as much as possible.
People are really tense and fearful, now more than ever, and one of the best things you can do is pull people into your peace and just be kind. Kindness and compassion go a long way in giving faith to humanity.
Let’s use this as an opportunity to shine a bright light into the world, that each of us can walk towards making the world a better place.