Keeping your word, a key to inner peace…

A promise to a Sister

Oh boy, now I know this is a tough, conversation to have, cause let’s admit that sometimes “life” happens and our promises get derailed as a result of it.  We’ve all been there, including myself.

But sometimes, what starts off as a good intention, turns out to be a habit and before you know it, it becomes a part of our character.  And, I’m a firm believer in the fact that how you do one thing, is how you do everything.

You better believe it!

It’s those sneaky, little habits, that get in the way of us experiencing true joy and inner fulfillment if we’re not mindful and pull up our boot straps before it gets out of hand.

This is not a self righteous, conversation about aiming for perfection.  What it is rather, is an empowering conversation to raise our level of Awareness to know when things get off track.

Here’s the thing, if you want to play the game of life in the space of your authentic self, the “Real You”, it will require you to rise higher and Be more, and what that means is that we align our habits with our Higher Self, and up our game so that we can feel congruent and at peace within.

You see, you “Get” what you “Give” in life, and if you truly want to live an exceptional life, you’ve simply got to rise higher, deliver on your promises and keep your word.

This is not about self judgement and being “too hard” on yourself, it’s about aligning yourself with the things that you know to be true inherently in your Spirit, guiding you to live a happier, more peaceful, life.

Believe it or not, this is about Self Love, so that you won’t carry guilt and anxiety within yourself which will hurt you and deplete your energy.  In fact, it’s been tested that guilt and shame are one of the highest, energy, depleters.

So here’s the deal…

Here’s 5 Ways on How to keep yourself in check when it comes to your promises:

  1. Know your priorities.  When you’re crystal clear on keeping the “Main thing, the Main thing” in your life, in other words, the things that you deem important to you and your loved ones, it provides a guide and a focal point for making all of your decisions and commitments.
  2. Refrain from the “disease to please”, just say NO.  Sometimes, we try to be “too nice” by accepting to do things that we really don’t want to do (you know what I’m talking about).  Honor how you feel and create boundaries in terms of how you feel.  You’ll be thankful you did.
  3. Respect your limits.  If you’ve got too much on your plate, then just say so.  Flat out honesty goes a long way and that way you’re honoring both yourself and respecting the other person.
  4. If you’re invited to a function and you’re not really feeling the vibe or digging the crowd for that matter, just be real and say NoWhy on earth would you put yourself through an uncomfortable situation when you truly don’t wanna be there?  Honor thyself.  Be true.
  5. Off with the excuses.  Say what you’ve gotta’ say and don’t over explain yourself.  No is actually a complete sentence.  If you can’t, you just can’t – end of story.

Please know that we ALL have the right to change our minds about things once in a while as we figure things out; it’s perfectly normal.  However, we just have to be a little more mindful, before we promise the sun, the moon and the stars when we very well know that we’re incapable of giving that.

So what about you?  Do your find yourself being overwhelmed sometimes and making promises that you can’t keep?  Got any suggestions to share with the rest of us on how to graciously, say No?

OR, Need Advice?

Please feel free to share what you’re going through on the Comment section of the blog, and I’ll be sure to Reply.

Be impeccable with your word my friends, you’ll feel good about yourself overall and you’ll keep your friends and your clients. ;)

With love,

Abby xo




Don’t look back, you’re not going that way…

She drives

I’ve always been fascinated by our propensity to seek pleasure in revelling in our painful, stories of the past.

It’s like we wear it with a badge of honor or something, like an Identity.  And we’ve all at some point or another in our lives experienced some unfathomable, circumstances and defeats that we’ve overcome without a doubt – I know I sure have.

Our stories of struggle and triumph are certainly worth sharing to inspire each other on occasion to rise above our circumstances and soar.  Our stories, humanize us, make us relatable to one another, while it pulls us together as a whole, collective, consciousness.

But we’re not supposed to stay there.

It reminds me of a scene in the movie Jerry Maguire when he takes Renee Zellweger out on a date for the first time.  He begins to share his painful, past, while Renee Zellweger then follows suit and shares hers.  It was at that moment, she realized that their conversation was becoming a total “Vibe killer”, so she looks at him and says “Let’s not share our sad stories”.  And with that, the date ensued as they enjoyed the moment.

There’s a time to be vulnerable to remove our masks and share our pain and there is a time to make peace with that pain, let it go, heal and look to the horizon.  For our struggles are only there to teach us, to summon a higher wisdom within us to emerge, to expand our consciousness as we awaken to who we “Really Are”.

Imagine if we were more enthused to share our victories rather than our painful, stories of the past?  What would happen if we talked about our blessings, rather than our burdens?

Our hearts would expand.  We would create space.  Space for more of what we truly want to enter our lives.  We would also become more engaged in the moment and the richness of life in the present, bright eyed, alert and optimistic about the endless, possibilities, unfolding before us.

There would be no need to recant our pain and suffering for it would only re-open the wound that was once healed.

You see, we lose our power when we focus on the past.

We bind ourselves to the wound, and we start to define ourselves by it, as opposed to learning from it and moving on.  This is how patterns are formed, this is how we remain stuck in our paradigms, this is what prevents a real shift to occur in our lives.

I love what medical intuitive, Dr. Carolyn Myss has to say on the matter of what she so cleverly, coined as “Woundology”:

Many people are addicted to their wounds.  Many people have found that wounds are a form of street currency.

I know, a pretty, bold, comment, huh?

She further describes how through her medical research, she was able to witness a pattern in her patients who held on to their painful, thoughts of the past while it affected their energy on a cellular level which prevented healing.

So how do we begin to heal?  We start by forgiveness.  Forgiveness of self, forgiveness of all grievances, forgiveness of the past and then we slowly let it go.

We let it go, because there is no justification in seeing any value in pain, once forgiveness has occurred.  For where there is atonement; there is release.

It’s really that simple.

And when we awaken to this truth, we free ourselves by realizing that our past has no power over us – it never did.

We awaken to our true Magnificent selves that has been there all along.

Over to you.  Do you find yourself replaying a painful, memory in your mind?  How does it make you feel?  Do you find difficulty in letting it go?

OR, Need Advice?

Please feel free to share what you’re going through on the Comment section of the blog, and I’ll be sure to Reply.

I’d love to hear from you!

Remember, nothing from the past can harm you, only your thoughts about it can.

Much love,

Abby xo









The rise of the Divine feminine and how it applies to business & life…

Jackie Onassis

To be a woman is truly an incredible feeling.  We are quite the extraordinary, fabulous, creatures with the ability to nurture our families, friends, the very foundation of society; the world in general.

We’ve been blessed with the gift to display love beyond borders with an immeasurable amount of kindness and compassion, to those in need while juggling a “gazillion” tasks.

Yes indeed, we are the “Queen” of multi-tasking.  And our sphere of influence whether it be in business or life in general, continues to expand at an exponential rate.

With the rise of the divine feminine, and the Spiritual Awakening, women all over the world are emerging as leaders.

A divine call for our natural, nurturing ability is requiring us to “unleash” and reclaim our feminine or “shakti” power by releasing old beliefs of feeling unworthy, so that we may step into our power and live in the space of our “Authentic Self”.

A divine task is at hand that requires us to spread our feminine, magnificence with the world.

Behold, a New World is emerging where feminine intuition will reign over logic, love will reign over fear and truth over Illusions.

What this truly means, is that we must be vigilante, in setting the intention to Serve for the highest good of all concerned.  For all of our daily interactions and transactions for that matter must be done from a place of love, spirit and truth, thus becoming a beacon of light and making an incredible impact on the world.

To walk in our feminine power will require us to be fierce with courage & grace, to be unapologetic about who we are while owning our imperfections, so that our natural essence can shine through and empower those in need of our divine, maternal love.

Yes, the time has come for women all over the world to lead using our hearts with the ultimate intent of becoming, a divine, conduit of service.

Here are 6 components to unleashing your inner “Shakti” power in Business & Life:

  1. Intuition – Make intuitive based decisions vs. Mind based decisions.  By following your intuition, you align yourself with divine Intelligence thereby making decisions that will have a positive effect for the greater good.  This will give you a sense of inner peace and connectedness with the Divine while putting you in the flow of the Universe.
  2. Collaboration – A Collaborative spirit is more in line with the truth that we are co-Creators and that we are part of a whole, collective, consciousness.  By operating from a place of togetherness, this will foster abundance and harmony.  A competitive spirit however, creates a “Me against the World” mentality and feeds the illusion of separation when we are One.  This will in turn attract excessive struggle into your business & life.
  3. Harmony – As business leaders, it is so important to foster harmonious conditions to create a “Thriving”, balanced work environment.  Disharmony of any sort will foster a “Survival” type environment which will create unhealthy competition.  The feminine energy then will be essential to creating healthy, loving, harmonious conditions.
  4. Creativity – A woman’s co-Creative, maternal energy is integral to building the foundation of our children, youth and society on a whole.
  5. Compassion – Kindness & Compassion will draw others close to you and will create a sense of connectedness and trust.  This will be incredibly helpful in building, long standing relationships in the realm of Business or Life.
  6. Love – Make love the focal point of all of your decisions. Ask yourself, how your choices will uplift & edify those in your sphere of influence.  By doing so, you will send a ripple effect into the Universe and it will ricochet right back to you both personally and professionally while serving to the highest of your ability.

It is truly an exciting time indeed to be fierce & fab using your feminine power.

The world as we know it is changing, therefore we must be adaptable and flexible to fall into the flow of the Universe rather than wrestling with it, stuck in our old, egoic belief systems.

Yes, it’s time for us to allow our True Self to emerge, become Ambassadors of Love and serve for the greater good of all.

Now your turn.  Do this resonate with you in any way?

OR, Need Advice?

I’d love to hear from you!

Please feel free to share what you’re going through in the Comments section of the blog and I’ll be sure to Reply.

Be fierce,

Abby xo








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