How often do you use the word can’t?
Do you use it frequently?
How does it make you feel when you can’t do something you want, when you can’t start something, or you can’t finish something?
Does it make you feel limited?
One day I was renewing some personal documents with an administrative clerk, where I witnessed how we block progression and solutions first hand by repeatedly using the word can’t.
I noticed the administrative clerk, while working on my paperwork, use the word can’t a gazillion times.
It was truly fascinating to observe this inner struggle while a lovely woman countered every possible solution that I suggested to make herself right, which backed up her belief in the word can’t.
To be perfectly honest, it took everything in me to tame my ego (because I wanted to shake her), but then I calmed myself down, and reminded myself that compassion heals. I continued to observe her, amazed and baffled by how in love she was with the problem.
I finally drummed up the courage to let her know that she repeated the word can’t so many times that we were not coming to a solution as a result of it.
She was shocked by my candidness, and because of it, she chose to work with me, rather than against me. I even got a smile out of her – which backed up my belief that the truth, delivered from a loving place, wins.
A beautiful lesson unfolded as a result; she had an ‘a-ha’ moment, and we were able to come to a happy resolution for the highest good of all.
When you are faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable, sometimes all you need is a shift in perception, and an open mind.
When you use the word can’t repeatedly, you are unconsciously making a decision to remain stuck without even trying – you are choosing to be a victim of the problem.
Words are powerful, they vibrate within our being until they become our beliefs.
Become more conscious of your words, and you become aware that you are the conscious creator of your reality.
I’d like to challenge you to examine the words that you use on a daily basis.
When faced with the unexpected, or when challenged, do you find yourself lamenting over a situation? Do you look at every possible scenario that prevents you from moving forward in your life?
Or, do you creatively focus on out of the box ways of creating solutions?
When you let go of words that come from a place of limitation, you can open yourself up to solutions. Opportunities will present themselves in very unexpected ways!
The Course in Miracles has a beautiful affirmation that can help shift your perception when faced with a problem:
“I am willing to see things differently.”
When you declare this affirmation to the Universe, you are inviting your higher self to step in and come up with solutions without boundaries. You’ll open the door to the limitless.
If you find yourself stuck in a situation, take a look at the words you’re using to describe it. You can clear the path forward by removing limiting words that block you from progressing in your life.
Now over to you: Does this message resonate? What are some self-limiting words that you are willing to let go of so you can move forward?
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Cheers to progression and using our words more mindfully.
Are you the type to graciously accept a compliment, gift, or a hug?
Are you willing to accept help when needed?
Or does your pride turn it down, interpreting it as a sign of weakness?
Just how willing are you to receive?
Sometimes you’ll go through periods in your life where you experience a series of so many disappointments that you feel like you’re losing spirit.
It becomes your pathology to reenact a recurring theme in your life to support the story that you’ve created.
That’s when you form walls in your heart, as a defence mechanism, and you create an identity of being a victim.
That’s when you end up inevitably pushing your blessings away from you.
Then there are times that so many wonderful things are happening at the same time and it becomes overwhelming, and your inner saboteur starts acting up and saying, ‘whoa, this is too much.’
Imagine if you’ve been single for a while, and when you finally meet an amazing person who showers you love and affection. But your inner saboteur starts finding flaws and retracting.
Or, you’ve been offered an incredible career opportunity, but you start convincing yourself that you’re not qualified.
When this happens, it is revealing your internal beliefs that you are unworthy.
And until you heal these false beliefs, you will continue to sabotage your blessings on an unconscious level.
Because the reality is that you can set the most grandiose goals in life, but if your heart isn’t open or ready to receive it, it will not happen.
An open heart creates space for everything beautiful to enter your life.
Become more aware of your internal beliefs. Make peace with them. Forgive them. Set the intention that you are willing to set healthier beliefs about yourself, and you will expand your heart to receive all of the wonderful blessings that life has to offer you.
Here are 3 ways that you can identify your internal beliefs:
1) How you accept a compliment.
I absolutely love giving compliments to people. In fact, I give compliments to strangers regularly, and often I observe a certain awkwardness. Some people close up completely and turn away, while others are quick to fire back a compliment without accepting it graciously. Both reactions reveal feelings of unworthiness. Observe yourself next time someone complements you, and this will reveal your internal beliefs. (Also, responding with a simple ‘thank you’ for a compliment is gracious.)
2) Your reaction when a wonderful, opportunity comes your way.
It’s perfectly normal to feel a little scared when an amazing opportunity comes your way to advance. However, over-analyzing the opportunity could really be your inner saboteur speaking out. Sometimes we use procrastination as a tool so that we can push the opportunity away from us. The next time this happens, remind yourself that you are worthy, and there’s no reason not to accept the opportunities that flow in your direction. By accepting this abundance, it prevents you from becoming stagnant.
3) When someone gives you an unexpected gift.
Clamming up, or feeling guilty about not reciprocating an unexpected gift are signs of unworthiness. When this happens, accept the gift graciously with a ‘thank you’, and leave it at that. Then at a later date, when your heart is inclined to return the gesture, go for it, because it will be coming from a more genuine place. A place of love, instead of ‘just because.’
Awareness is the first step to change, and when you have the courage to lovingly face your beliefs that block you from living the life that you truly want, you can position yourself to receive all of the wonderful things that life has to offer.
Does any of this resonate? I’d love to hear from you!
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.
Life longs to love you, allow it to shower you with affection.
And remember, you are worthy simply because of who you are.
Now is the time for us to heed that Universal call to rise in the midst of all the fear, darkness, and uncertainty going on in the world.
If you want to make a difference in this world, heightening your frequency of love is a great place to start.
When you are tuned into the frequency of love, you are overflowing with joy, inner peace, and compassion. These qualities can also elevate those around you.
It can shift energy wherever you go.
Love is the antidote to everything. It is ever-present in the ups and the downs of life. It is always constant, real, and without regard to change. Love has the capacity to transform chaos into peace, fear into faith, and darkness into light.
Love heals all.
It dissolves the imaginary boundaries between one another. It lifts the veil of perception to see just how similar we really are.
Love neutralizes negative, fear-based thoughts. It illuminates the light.
Love says, ‘yes, I am worthy.’
When you let loving thoughts vibrate in the cells of your entire being, you can become luminous. It is the path that leads to a life that will shower you with affection.
Let’s be ever present today, mindful of choosing loving thoughts that are in line with the life that you want.
For each loving thought you have in the present moment becomes the fuel for transforming your life.
Send out blasts of love and peace to everyone you encounter, particularly now, with the state of global affairs. Send silent blessings to strangers, for giving and receiving are one. It will come back to you tenfold, and in the most unexpected and amazing ways.
Imagine your heart expanding outwards and embracing all, because it’s only when you open your heart that your inner world will expand.
Something as simple as choosing loving thoughts will transform your aura and vibrational frequency to match the ever present, universal frequency of love.
When you emulate this love, and share this way of being with the world through your example, you become a beacon of hope in a world that so desperately needs the light.
It’s time to put love into practice, walk the talk and become a beacon of light for others to see their way through.
Will you join me?