Remove ‘I want’, and find ridiculous peace and joy in your life…

Woman pondering

The journey on my spiritual path has been quite interesting to say the least, especially the part of merging Western philosophy with Eastern philosophy.

Western philosophy has taught us to live by doing, and it has certainly ignited the course of innovation.  Eastern philosophy, on the other hand, shares a slightly different perspective that might seem more radical to Western ideology.  Which leads me to question if there is a different way?

A more graceful one.

One where there is nothing to prove, but just be ourselves, fearlessly.

What if there was nothing to get, chase or plot for?  What if it was okay to just be our magnificent, whole selves without needing anything at all?

You wanna know something?

At first I found this way of thinking was a little too esoteric, New Age, and filled with fairies and unicorns for my taste.  I mean what do you mean we shouldn’t have any desires?  Whaaatttt!? 

It’s not like I was going to pack up and live in an ashram somewhere on a mountain and meditate all day, right?

Well, it turns out that I’ve personally discovered that there is some wisdom to abolishing a ‘wanting’ state.

What I’ve discovered is that which causes us the most pain in our lives, is wanting something to be other than it is right now.

Wanting stimulates our vices to rage war within us; i.e. pride and ego.

Sound familiar:

“I deserve this,”

“How dare I be deprived of this,”

Essentially we have an internal temper tantrum because we’re not getting what we believe to be right and true for us in the now.

This state of what I like to call, “I gotta get something”, robs our peace of mind in the present, in every way possible, strengthens the outer mask of the Ego and it’s me-centered mentality and makes us miserable.

The ultimate freedom then, is to remove wanting from our lives so that we can return to our true state of wholeness and lack nothing at all.  It’s called gratitude.

Out of nothing, we can allow everything beautiful and prosperous to unfold in our lives.

I must warn you, that this state of nothingness at first can feel like you’re being lazy and unambitious. Your first reaction will be, “Omigosh, I gotta’ DO something dammit,” or “The sky is falling and I’m not doing anything!” 

It’ll drive you crazy.  It’s kinda like when I reached the place of Meditation after practicing for hours on end, where I experienced the moments of sheer silence, where I felt completely weightless,  no rambling in my mind at all just pure stillness. I remember thinking, “Wow,  this feels amazing. No anxiety whatsoever, just pure peace of mind”.  Cool!

What I’m trying to say here is that graceful living is awakening to the truth that we are One with all that is, that we are not separate from the Universe.

When we come to this realization, we fall into a state of flow and ease, rather than pushing and chasing. Things come to us, rather than us having to seek them out because we have connected to the core of our being.

This is not to say that we cannot have a vision in life, or work towards it.  It just means that instead of being so futuristic in our minds ALL the time, and clinging to the end result, why not approach our vision with a knowing that it is already done, and that we already have what we need to accomplish it?

I know it’s easier said than done, but something worth pondering in the name of peace and joy.

So now over to you;  what are you clinging to in your mind that is getting in the way of your peace of mind?  I’d love to hear from you!

OR, Need Advice?

Please share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the rest of the community on the blog and I’ll be sure to reply.

P.S. Looks like our beloved Buddha had a point after all, when letting go of wants and finding peace after all.

All love,

Abby xo


Preserve your precious “Prana”, life force energy. Respect it…

prana energy

This is a tough topic for many that often evokes a lot of emotions about people draining our energy.  But what if I were to tell you that it all starts with You, and how you respect your life force energy by setting personal boundaries.

You see, sometimes we allow ourselves to be exposed to toxic energy because a teeny, bitty part of us seeks approval and acceptance, and so we become overly accommodating to negative vibes, to the point that it drains us.

Here’s the thing however, energy zappers come in all kinds of forms.  They’re quite clever and they’ll creep up on you when you least expect it, and totally throw you off your game.

Our Mind wants us to believe that we are victims of the outside world so that we can continue to live in our illusions.  You know, the “Me against the world mentality”, everyone’s out to take me down, when in truth, we are the Master or Empress of our vessels.

In other words, we have the power to protect ourselves, preserve our cosmic, divine energy, our peace of mind and declare, “you shall not pass” and so it shall be.  Yup! 

And when we begin to honor our life force energy, we will guard our hearts and minds at all costs.

Here’s a list of 14 sneaky, uncommon, energy zappers that you’ve probably never even considered:

  • Toxic foods that make you feel like crap
  • “Trash talk”, or pardon my french for a moment “Shit talk”
  • Mindless Gossip (yes, that also includes revelling in the misfortunes of others)
  • Managing people’s bizness in your Mind (not mine by the way – Byron Katie’s)
  • Constantly criticizing ourselves or others
  • The chronic disease of whining, bitching and complaining
  • Talking about your problems forever and ever amen
  • Judgment “You’re wrong, I’m Right. = unhappiness”
  • Overworking yourself with a lack of rest
  • Pushing – HARD, instead of being in grace
  • Insatiable desires, cravings, attachment and constant wanting
  • Living in the future in our Minds
  • Replaying the past over, and over again
  • And lastly but not least, one of my personal faves – Vices a.k.a Kryptonite

All of these lovely, activities agitate our Spirit within and they also disrupt the flow of grace in our lives. 

You see, the point I’m trying to make here is that we begin to take full responsibility for our vessels when we guard what we expose ourselves to.  That is when we truly begin to walk in our power and discover who we ”Really Are”.   Or, like A Course in Miracles says, “we awaken to who the dreamer actually is.”

Look, I know this can often be a hard pill to swallow sometimes, as I too at one point in my previous life was a finger pointer.  But you wanna know what?   It’s so much better to feel the burn, face our truth and bust through our karmic patterns that are getting in the way of our spiritual evolution.

Why not make this round on earth a once in a lifetime experience day in, day out, transcend our limitations and shine bright like a diamond.

Now your turn.  Any of these, energy zappers sound familiar?  And if so, how are you prepared to set better, personal boundaries for yourself in the New Year? 

OR, Need Advice?

Do share your heartfelt thoughts and comments with the rest of the community on the blog, and I’ll be sure to reply. 

Our energy is so, so precious and really is the source of all creativity.

Cheers to vitality, cosmic creativity and peace of mind for 2015!

With love,

Abby xo

It’s a New Year. A new way of being will require us to think differently…

Woman at window

Welcome to the year 2015!

We’ve entered a New Year filled with infinite possibility, but more importantly we are currently living in the time of the Great Awakening.  Yes, we’re all moving into a higher, vibrational, frequency where Miracles will become more frequent and apparent to the human eye.

The year 2014 was very much a cleansing year, where many of us were faced with the ghosts of our past to confront and forgive to ultimately heal us from within.

However, 2015 presents an opportunity to truly begin from a clean slate and this will require us to think differently and I don’t mean the “rah, rah” positive thinking fluff, I’m talking about going beyond that, I’m talking about Transcendence.

What does that mean, specifically, you may ask?

It means going beyond duality consciousness or Logic/Mind/Ego and thinking higher.

This can be very challenging for many of us including myself, because we’ve lived in the Mind for so long and it has certainly served us well in some aspects as a collective, consciousness, but we’re going higher now and what worked then will no longer work in the current phase of our spiritual evolution.

The great scientist, Albert Einstein was way ahead of his time when he quoted the following:

A new type of thinking is essential if mankind is to survive and move towards higher levels.  Man must be able to develop a higher form of thought if he’s ever going to be able to use his energy and wisdom.

Albert Einstein is an example of someone who was able to transcend Logic to witness the infinite expansiveness of the Universe.

So where do we go from here?

One of the most profound shifts that we can make to halt our karmic patterns from repeating itself, much less our limited perception, is by letting go of dwelling on the past, and letting go of imagining for the future.

This is very difficult for many of us to embrace but can powerfully, accelerate the course of our True destiny by allowing something greater than ourselves, God, to move through us and direct our path.

The only moment truly is Now, and that’s where we harness our power, by focusing entirely on each moment. By doing this, we partner with the Universe as opposed to taking matters into our own hands and limiting what’s possible for ourselves.

So now you’re thinking, how do we do this Abby?

My answer is, you can start by incorporating a daily, meditation practice.

Meditation empties out our consciousness and unloads the gunk of our past that we hold in our subconscious minds.  It also retrains the mind to be present and focus on each moment.

While you’re meditating, you become the observer of fleeting thoughts that occur and you’re able to witness your own thinking patterns. I share this with you all because it really has changed my life, yet I still know nothing and continue to aim to be a humble student myself, to the mysteries of the Universe.

We’ve all heard the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.  Well, this is an opportunity to shift our old ways of thinking Ascend and Awaken to the magnificence that we “Really Are”.

Cheers to the journey and let this be the year of epic changes for us all!

To Infinity,

Abby xo

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