So you’ve gone through an enlightening, soul enriching, inner transformation. You’ve faced yourself down, and came out on the other side, reborn. You’ve cried, journaled, prayed, and meditated your brains out. You’ve pulled out the weeds one by one for new roots to spring forth.
You’ve done the work, and it’s been hard, but also incredibly liberating.
When the windows of perception are cleared, it’s amazing what you’ll begin to see in the room of your life that, up until now, seemed so dark.
This is what consciousness is all about. It’s about being lit up and awakening from the inside.
It’s knowing the difference between what is real and what is imagined.
The parts of you that you thought were broken, the parts that you feel are messy, those are the parts that heal with unconditional love, so that you can ultimately become a whole person.
When you find your internal harmony between the yin and the yang, and the balance between your strengths and weaknesses, you can make it all work together in a whole, functional manner with total acceptance.
You know better now, you’ve seen the light and there’s no turning back!
What a relief to discover, “I am actually perfect the way I am!”
Sometimes getting to this point can feel like ground zero, and you have to learn how to live your life in a completely new way. This can be wonderful, but it can also be a little overwhelming.
It’s only natural that you’ll stumble a bit along the way, and occasionally resort to old patterns, because you’re still in the middle of the process.
The process is a beautiful place to be, because that’s where you get to create your new story!
You don’t have the weight of your past, or whatever previously held preconceived notions of who you are, but rather you are now a blank canvas, ready to be painted by all the divine and infinite possibilities available to you!
How exciting, and even a tad scary, moving into uncharted territory, but each day you take a step, surrender with a leap of faith and know you are on the right path. Love surrounds you and supports you, and you are exactly where you need to be.
You will figure this out.
Be patient and gentle with yourself, and enjoy the journey along the way.
I once attended a comedy show in support of a client of mine who happens to be a fantastic comedian.
There were about 4 or 5 comedians that performed and totally had me in stitches. In fact, each performance had the natural ability to make fun of some of their own challenges in life.
And I thought to myself, ‘Wow, that’s power!‘
To take your own challenges and turn them into a comedy skit, make people laugh, and forget about their own, is an incredible gift.
I believe that comedians are healers in disguise.
The path to healing is a life-long process that will require a lot of patience and gentleness with yourself.
Throughout your life, you are constantly shedding away your past, your old habits, and those patterns that continue to surface in your life. There are so many layers of mental constructs, false beliefs and stories that are deeply rooted within that takes time, sometimes lifetimes to heal.
Just when you think I’ve got it, I’ve finally got it!, someone will say, or do something that can trigger you so deeply that pain (and many of your old patterns) can come back to haunt you.
Just when you think, I’ve met the one, you realize that it’s the same guy, but in a different suit.
Just when you think, I’m doing so well by eating healthy, you hit the local Tim Horton’s, look at the menu and order the same donut with the sprinkles on it.
It can be incredibly frustrating, but you are a human being, and you’re going to slip up.
And that’s okay.
If you can’t laugh at yourself on occasion, you’re taking life way too seriously.
There are times that you’re going to break your diet and put the weight back on until you stabilize.
You”ll believe your stories.
You’ll put your foot in your mouth sometimes.
You’ll skip the gym or yoga class, procrastinate, miss your meditation practice, stop your exercise regime, and the list goes on and on.
Because it’s never about the destination. It’s everything we learn throughout the journey.
One of the most important lessons that I have learned over the years is to be gentle with myself, laugh more, and lighten up!
I took myself way too seriously for so many years and fell into the trap of trying to be perfect.
The journey is not about perfection, it’s about being real with oneself and loving what comes up, even the emotions that we sometimes feel uncomfortable with.
Cause and effect is one of our greatest teachers. And when you can demonstrate more compassion to yourself for the divine lessons that are unfolding in your life, you’ll really be able to open yourself up to the divine.
Everyone makes mistakes. That’s how we learn.
If you can learn to accept your imperfections, forgive yourself more often, and change your dialogue of constant self-criticism so you can speak to yourself in a more loving way, miraculous shifts can occur in your life.
Allow yourself to be a human being, be willing to learn the lesson in it all, and try again next time.
Sometimes, life can seem pretty tough.
The golden opportunity that you thought was a level up, didn’t quite work out; the beautiful relationship that you thought would last a lifetime didn’t etc.
These things happen, change is certain, in fact, none of us are absolved from curve balls in life however, we can choose to see things differently.
We all have a choice to see through the lens of love or fear.
When you peer through the lens of love, everything is happening for your highest good.
And through the lens of fear, that you are a victim of happenstance.
Bitterness hurts, my friends.
It creates a negative vortex around you that puts a sign on your forehead for the Universe that says, “I want more problems.”
Plus, it’s a heavy energy to carry, which is not an empowering way to live.
On the other hand, love heals and can trigger what needs to be brought to the surface for examination.
Love sees the whole picture, and views every challenging situation as a divine lesson with greater meaning. It molds you, pruning and refining you into the magnificent person that you really are.
Loves asks, “What can I learn from this experience? In what way can I learn more about myself based on my reaction?”
There is always a shared accountability in every encounter or experience that you have.
By taking responsibility for your part in the experience, you shift from being the victim, to being empowered.
Nothing can be accomplished with a heart that is closed off.
This perpetuates suffering and spreads density within.
An open heart, on the other hand, creates space for everything beautiful to unfold in your life.
Ask yourself these questions when you find yourself holding onto a grievance in your heart:
1) What value do I get by holding onto this offence?
It’s really twisted, but somehow we feed into the belief that pain adds value in our lives. Or that by holding onto a grudge, it is revengeful. But this only hurts ourselves in the end. When you love yourself, why on earth would you want to hang onto that pain?
2) What would love do in this situation?
Ask yourself what would love do? Does love punish? Is it full of revenge? Only fear wants to do all of the above because fear interprets itself as being under attack whereas love sees itself as always safe and protected.
3) Am I getting what I want?
Most of us have hidden desires of the heart; we’re only human, after all. So ask yourself if the grievance is getting in the way of the life you want to live. You’ll find with deeper reflection that it is in some way as it keeps you shackled in your past, leaving no room for new experiences to come in.
Every single person is worthy of a beautiful, fulfilling life.
However, it starts with having an open heart and the willingness to learn and see things differently.
Cheers to joy, lightness, and freedom!