One day when I was on my way home, as I was about to step into the elevator, I saw a young woman who was quite upset.
I quietly observed her, and thought to myself that you never really know what someone is going through.
On the surface she was emitting so much anger. However, beyond that anger, I felt a deep sadness within her and I just smiled warmly when she glanced in my direction.
For a moment it reminded me of my old self, a high-strung, driven, alpha young woman that carried the weight of the world on her shoulders. I felt such deep compassion for her, as I saw in her my younger self.
I wanted to hug her in that moment, and tell her that everything’s gonna be okay.
When the elevator arrived, a father and his little girl also joined us, and his daughter looked at the young woman and blurted out, “Daddy, that lady is very sad.”
You gotta love the purity and innocence of children that speak their minds so freely.
The father apologized for his daughter’s candidness. He put his head down sheepishly, and hugged his little girl as the woman dashed out of the elevator as fast as she could. She was more than likely embarrassed by the little girl’s comment, and honesty.
There is such beauty in seeing yourself in another person. It’s what keeps you connected to your heart, and to others.
In that moment I was able to witness a part of my old self, that allowed me to identify with her, instead of being too quick to judge.
I believe that one of the cures of separation is simply by seeing yourself in the other person.
When you focus on sameness instead of differences, you’ll begin to see with your heart more than with your mind.
We are all part of a collective whole, living, breathing organism expressing itself through each and every one of us.
When you begin to witness the beauty in other people you meet, you honour the divinity in all, and embrace the oneness of our humanity.
A lot of the disharmony that is occurring around the world right now is because of this mis-perception of separation.
Let us all rise to the occasion of the troubled times that we find ourselves in by calling forth the light within to demonstrate more loving kindness with yourself and others.
For by demonstrating compassion, you will begin to heal yourself, and when you start the process of healing, we all heal together.
Onwards to the light.
So this week I’ve got a cool, “Aha” moment to share with you all.
You’ll find that the more present and aware you become, you’ll begin to realize how the Universe is always speaking and responding to you.
This weekend I took off on a mini road trip for a day. About an hour into the drive we decided to make a quick stop to grab a coffee at Starbucks.
I pulled out a $50 bill to pay the barista as I didn’t have any smaller bills. She accepted my payment and then told me that she only had $5 bills left and that she didn’t have any larger bills. I accepted it reluctantly, a tad unnerved.
I just felt like it cluttered my wallet, I like my money neat and organized; one of my strange idiosyncracies.
So I asked her if I could get a $20 bill from another customer that paid and offered that I would wait. She then responded that they don’t exchange money that way.
Clearly my pushing to get what I wanted and my negotiation skills were not working, so I accepted it gracefully, walked out with a smile, my gazillion $5 dollar bills and my Americano.
Later on that evening on the way home, I decided to stop for some takeout. While standing in line, I struck up a conversation with a lady that was waiting in line behind me.
When it was my turn at the cash register, I pulled out the wad of $5 bills to pay the cashier and before you know it, the lady who I was chatting with behind me says “Oh I see you have all those $5 bills, how about I exchange a $20 bill with you?” She then went on to say “You need a larger bill and I’m in need of smaller bills.”
My first response was, “No, really it’s ok” and then in that split second, I remembered that I wanted a $20 bill earlier, so I accepted it.
I walked away thinking “Wow, I asked for the $20 bill and I got it, how awesome!” And it came to me in the most unorthodox way, from a complete stranger that I would never have figured out.
Which got me thinking, how many times in our lives do we say that we desire something whether it be a beautiful relationship, a career opportunity etc, and it arrives to us and we literally push it away?
Thankfully, I was able to stop myself from refusing this complete stranger’s kind gesture and accept my blessing.
So here’s a few questions that I want you to reflect upon, “Do you allow life to unfold?” “Are you willing to be blessed?”
Because what I’ve found in life, is that life will only bless us with what we are willing to allow in.
And really, a lot of it stems from our beliefs, stories of the past, feelings of unworthiness etc.
The good news is, you can heal these self defeating patterns one small shift at a time, just like that split second that I witnessed myself almost resist my blessing of the $20 bill that I asked for and quickly made the shift and accepted it.
And if you can commit to a daily, practice of meditation, get ready to expand your awareness like never before and place yourself in a state of grace.
I hope this message empowers you to know that the Universe is for you.
Make that your daily mantra, let go of your resistance one small shift at a time, and watch your life begin to change.
Today I want to share something personal with you about my own journey.
You see, I made the decision to give up alcohol 4 years ago, and have kept my commitment to sobriety to this date.
Something spoke within me and made me aware that alcohol became a vice for me. It exacerbated certain old, emotional patterns that were no longer serving my growth.
We all have these unhealthy patterns within us that cause addictions to the visceral experiences, and our senses. This could either range from sex, drugs, alcohol, sugar, distractions etc.
When our cravings take over, we become a slave to our senses and addiction happens. This takes us further away from our true selves.
This could also set a ripple effect into other areas of our lives, as how we do one thing, is usually how we do all things.
By identifying your root patterns, this can set the wheels in motion for a powerful, transformation in your life that can literally shift your trajectory.
My inner guidance also showed me that in order to fulfill the spiritual call on my life, I needed to have a clean vessel and that alcohol weakened my intuitive gifts and affected my ability to hear divine guidance clearly.
One of the keys to living your highest, most vibrant self is to have an honest conversation with yourself, and get to know your patterns or shadows.
It takes a lot of courage however, by doing so, you begin the path to healing through loving acceptance and naturally, the spirit within us will emerge and take the lead.
So I decided to give up alcohol.
I can recall the day of this transformative shift in my life when I was collecting my empty wine bottles to take to the liquor store for recycling, when I saw a guy in the elevator that looked at me, puzzled.
I could hear his thoughts say, “You like to party,” and I laughed silently to myself thinking, this guy thinks I’m a lush.
And that was it, I made my decision.
Fulfilling the call on my life was way too important to me, it was beyond my excuses, beyond my limitations, in order to become a divine instrument of service.
Now I didn’t go completely cold turkey at first, however I am completely off of alcohol now as I go deeper on my spiritual path, and I feel so much better from the inside out.
Plus, I have mastered this vice and no longer crave it. One down, more to go.
It’s also made a huge difference on my skin as it’s more hydrated and miraculously has taken years off of me.
My intention is to show people that we are more powerful than we think, and that we have the willpower to stop unhealthy patterns.
We all have the ability to overcome our patterns my friends, and by discovering your Why, it will give you the strength to discipline yourself and choose differently.
For only when you believe in something greater than yourself do you find the willpower to be committed to being your highest, most vibrant self.
Cheers to willpower, you can do it!