I used to stifle my emotions, and I became quite good at it.
My automatic response when someone asked how I was doing (when I clearly wasn’t doing well) was, “I’m ok, really I am.”
I was taught to believe that expressing my emotions was a sign of weakness, so I internalized what I felt.
I put on my reasoning cap, became overly diplomatic, and sacrificial in expressing what I truly felt. This created layers of blockages.
It wasn’t until I crossed paths with an incredible Life Coach a few years back, who brought this way of thinking to my attention. It helped me to release all of the pent up energy that had manifested itself inside my body.
This was a pivotal point in my journey because my life started to take off in a more authentic way; a way where I no longer had to fear revealing my vulnerability. It was a way that I could tap into my power, and strength, by embracing all of me.
While I believe that there is a wisdom in not allowing yourself to become a slave to your emotions, I also believe that you will do more harm by not expressing them, or worse, suppressing them.
Your emotions are the triggers that let you know something is out of harmony within yourself. It’s something that needs to be brought to the forefront for healing.
When you suppress your emotions, it inevitably creates barriers and blockages in your heart.
You avoid facing your truth.
By not expressing your emotions, you bear the risk of becoming desensitized, less compassionate, and less empathetic.
The things that you resist, persist.
Try and think about these questions for a moment:
- How can you build healthy, authentic relationships in your life without expressing your emotions?
- How can you grow closer to someone by living behind a mask?
- How can you teach your children to become whole people by not allowing them to witness your emotions?
- How can you be a relatable leader in your life when you don’t reveal your true self?
While there will definitely be moments in your life when you can’t let it all hang out, it is a great practice to embrace the entire spectrum of emotions, even sadness, anger, etc.
You must feel these emotions, witness them, allow them to flow through you. However, you mustn’t allow them to take root, for they are only transient. They are there to make you aware of what needs to be healed.
I believe that the more in tune you become with your emotions, the more you open the door to a greater understanding of yourself.
By doing so, you will live more authentically in the space of your own true self.
Over to you: Do you have a difficult time expressing your emotions? What is it that keeps you from expressing them?
Or, need advice?
Please feel free to share your heartfelt thoughts and comments on the blog with the rest of the community, and I’ll be sure to reply.
Cheers to having the occasional meltdown. It really is okay.