Gotta’ love the Christmas holidays, it’s a wonderful time of the year.
It’s a time to love, celebrate, share and be grateful for what you have. What it isn’t however, is a time to compare, judge yourself, “stress yourself out” beyond comprehension to please others and my personal favourite, to use the holidays as a benchmark to determine where you are in life.
I can recall many moons ago when I was a teenager, it was a BIG Deal if you had a date for New Year’s Eve. And if you didn’t have a date or your boyfriend didn’t step up the plate and do something special, you were not a “happy camper” nor were the other young ladies who held great expectations for this festive event.
Setting expectations for yourself and others on what the holidays “should be”, is treading on dangerous ground; it is an invitation to suffering.
You cannot control people or things, stuff happens in life, not everything is “cookie cutter” and the moment you come to this realization, you become more at peace with yourself, you accept and you surrender to things as IS. You start to see things beyond the body’s eyes.
Ahhhhh! And how refreshing it is to accept and surrender to things the way they are.
There is something empowering about accepting your truth and not resisting it by buying into an Illusion of the way things should be. A sense of peace comes over you, the “Real You” emerges and you fall into the flow of the Universe instead of wrestling with it in your mind, pushing and painting a fantasy of what your Ego tells you how things should be.
Here’s a humorous dose of wisdom by, Spiritual teacher Byron Katie where she quotes:
“When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100% of the time.”
Doesn’t get any clearer than that whether it be Christmas or any other holiday for that matter. You are where you are. It is what it IS.
There are people out there right now who may not have a family, a job, who may have an illness that they are battling with secretly, an addiction, on the verge of a divorce oh yes, these are real issues that happen all the time.
And so my Christmas wish for those of you reading this if it rings true in your life, is that you don’t use the holidays to judge yourself for where you are. It’s only one part of the whole picture, the whole story that is unfolding in your life, it does not define you.
When we judge ourselves harshly by focusing on all that’s wrong in our lives (which by the way is formed by our own perceptions in the mind and is not necessarily true), we invite sadness into our lives and before you know it, one thought turns into another and another and before you know it, you fall into an abyss of Self Pity.
Quite the contrary, I encourage you to focus on the things that are going well in your life and place ALL of your attention there. And if there are things that you’re not pleased with, accept them for the way they are in the now, and plan for the next time around.
There is no shortage of lifelines, life will always give you a second chance if you believe you are worthy and are willing to make that change.
Get fired up! Plan a mission, don’t look back, look ahead.
What lays before you is far more important than what’s behind you and the point of creation is Now, in how you choose your thoughts, feelings and actions towards the life that you want to create for yourself.
Cherish your family, friends and those who matter in your life and hold on to them tight. You would not be the person you are today without them. Spread the holiday cheer by thanking them for supporting you over the years, make them feel special.
And more importantly, love the “Real You”. You are perfect just the way you are, you are exactly where you need to be, forgive yourself, others, breathe, exhale, “Let it all go” and empty your vessel to allow your good to flow to you.
Now watch the Magic unfold in your life.
Happy holidays my friends and cheers to inner Peace, Love & Grace!