How To Maintain Your Peace During Conflict.


Have you been feeling like time is speeding up lately?

Well, what you’re feeling is felt by many, as we are in a season of acceleration for our evolution.

While this season presents incredible opportunity for growth and spiritual awakening, it also induces conflict due to the fear of things changing rapidly.

The world can seem out of balance to many as a result of this, which leads to feelings of mass insecurity and intense fear.

This, in turn, reverts many back to old, survival patterns of fight or flight mentality.

By recognizing this fear based reaction and the place it is coming from, you can gently shift your frequency back to peace and harmony.

From this place you can create an inner space of calm, love, and grace which will send a ripple effect into the Universe.

You can release this fear by first simply forgiving each thought as it arises and you’ll find with time, you will feel a sense of peace come over your entire being.

Another spiritual practice that I absolutely love and use daily, is by meditating on the mantra of ‘Satnam’.

I repeat this mantra in meditation, whenever I experience anxiety, while driving in traffic, sometimes even in my sleep to reprogram my subconscious mind.

Satnam is a very a powerful mantra that means ‘Truth Is My Identity’.  It reminds you of your divine identity.  When you concentrate on this mantra, you emit the highest vibrational frequency.

You will literally begin to feel your mind and body become warm, calm and at ease because you are tapping into the light of God consciousness within you.

When you feel at peace within yourself you will feel grounded, irrespective of the chaos around you. You will be rooted in your power because you will have a deep inner knowing that you are in fact, connected to all things.

At this level of personal responsibility for the energy that you bring to the world, you will come to see as in the wise words of an African proverb:

“When there is no enemy within, there is no enemy without.”

Living with this awareness can profoundly change how you experience your life, conflict and the world around you.

Let’s use this divine assignment as an opportunity to heal and transcend our old fear based patterns that are no longer serving our evolution.

Now your turn:  Are you currently experiencing conflict in your life?  How are you coping?

Feel free to share your Comments with the rest of the community on the blog so that we can support you.

I hope this message empowers you to choose how you respond to conflict with more peace and grace.

With love and compassion,

Abby xo

Empathy As A Way Of Being.

Empathy and Compassion

One day I was on my way home and as I was about to step into the elevator, I saw a young woman who appeared to be quite agitated.

I quietly observed her and thought to myself that you never really know what someone is going through behind closed doors.

On the surface she was emitting so much anger, however I felt a deep sadness within her, and I just smiled warmly as she shot a glance at me.

For a moment it reminded me of my old self, a high-strung, alpha young woman that carried the weight of the world on her shoulders. It was by observing her that I felt such deep compassion for her, as I witnessed my younger self.

When the elevator arrived, a father and his little girl also joined us, and his daughter looked at the young woman and blurted out, “Daddy, that lady is very sad.”

You gotta love the purity and innocence of children that will speak their minds at anytime.

The father apologized for his daughter’s candidness. He put his head down sheepishly, and hugged his little girl as the woman dashed out of the elevator as fast as she could. She was more than likely embarrassed by the little girl’s comment, and her honesty.

There is such beauty in seeing yourself in another person. It’s what keeps you connected to your heart, and to others.

In that moment I was able to witness a part of my old self, that could identify with her.

We are all part of a collective whole, living, breathing organism expressing itself through each and every one of us.

When you begin to witness the beauty in other people you meet, you honour the divinity in all, and embrace the oneness of our humanity.

A lot of the disharmony that is occurring around the world right now is because of this mis-perception of separation.

What people need more than ever is compassion and empathy.

Send silent blessings to strangers, for giving and receiving are one.

It will come back to you in the most unexpected and amazing of ways.

By demonstrating compassion to one another, you will be demonstrating compassion to yourself, and becoming a bright light for others to see their own reflection.

With love and compassion,

Abby xo


How To Overcome A ‘Rescue Martyr’ Complex.

Rescue Martyr

There was a time in my life that I allowed myself to be taken advantaged of.

I gave and gave and gave until my emotional tank was on empty and my needs were neglected.

I had assigned myself the role of being a Rescue Martyr, and held this role with great pride.

You see, I was seeking approval and I became a people pleaser. I stifled my voice, ignored my needs, and continued to wear the mask of Happy Abby.

Upon deeper introspection though, I realized that this kind of giving was not coming from a wholesome, authentic place.

How did I know this?

Because I felt completely drained.

Healthy giving shouldn’t make you feel drained. It should energize you because it flows from spirit, not from ego.

If you’re a caring, empathic person like I am, it can be very easy to take on the troubles of the world, when it is not your responsibility to save everyone.

I was not Happy Abby, but I sure could pretend to the world that I was with big smiles, and saying the all the right things. Inside though? I felt invisible, and quietly resentful until one day my discomfort built up until I found the courage to say No, and set healthy boundaries for myself.

I learned to nurture myself, love myself, and fill myself up with divine love, instead of seeking love externally.

Now when I give, it comes from a healthy, whole place, without any unconscious agenda or expectation.

And when I begin to feel depleted in any way, I listen to what my inner guidance is trying to communicate with me through specific tension I may be feeling in my body.

I know what it’s like to allow a fictitious story of the past to subconsciously govern my life, patterns, and motives. And it’s hard. 

I believe in the power and purity of selflessness however, it can be difficult to dismantle the ego and discern whether our giving is coming from the ego (in some subtle form of seeking validation or approval), or purely from spirit.

Compassion is a full circle that starts within, and then extends outwards.

We must learn to demonstrate compassion to ourselves first, in order to give from in a healthy, pure, whole way.

Is your giving out of alignment with your Spirit? Here are 3 signs to watch out for: 

1)    You feel completely drained in the body.

What an incredible vessel that we have in the body. Your body is always communicating with you. If you find yourself constantly fatigued and exhausted, your body is trying to tell you that you need to nurture yourself a little more.

2)    You find yourself becoming quietly resentful.

This happens when you start pointing the finger and blaming others for not being appreciative. When the truth of the matter is that you are actually angry with yourself for not honouring your own needs and expressing it outwardly to others.

3)    You find yourself feeling disappointed A LOT.

Disappointment usually occurs when some expectation has not been met. And expectations can create a lot of suffering in your life if they’re not managed. When you give without expectation, it just feels good from the heart, and you’re not attached to the outcome. This isn’t a game where you play for points, this is about the purity of giving to share kindness, and to share your joy with someone else.

There is joy in giving however, let’s make sure that we give ourselves the same compassion from a healthy, whole place.

Now over to you: Do you enjoy giving with your whole heart? Or have you found yourself burnt out from ignoring your own needs?

I’d love to hear your key takeaways, and share with the rest of the community on the blog.

Or, need advice? I’d love to hear from you!

All love,

Abby xo

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