You bought a new home.
Started a new business.
Got a new job.
You got yourself a personal trainer, took a vacation, got a new haircut.
While these things are all positive changes, they are still outside of yourself and don’t really get to the heart of the matter - thought.
Because wherever you go, there you are.
I once had a profound dream of floating under a balloon over land. I recall feeling so light and fearless.
In the distance I saw a bridge which appeared to be over the ocean. I couldn’t stop the balloon from floating towards the edge, and so I began to get anxious as I approached the end of the bridge.
I recall thinking to myself “Oh my God, I’m going to drown! What am I going to do?” and in that exact instant, I fell to the bottom of the ocean and came back up for air.
I remember waking up from the dream thinking to myself, “wow, my thoughts are so powerful, fear is powerful.”
If I had faith that I was safe and secure, that the balloon would carry me over the ocean safely to land, I probably would not have drowned in the dream.
For whatever reason, call it a divine message or lesson, that dream became a catalyst for me becoming more mindful of the power of my thoughts and the effects they have on my life.
It made me realize that my life is happening through me, not to me.
It is common for many, on occasion, to blame their environment, past, childhood, outer forces, or circumstances for what’s going on in their life, however, the one thing we fail to realize is that the power for change is within.
And, until you get to the root cause, thought being in this instance, you will keep a recurring cycle of undesirable situations because you haven’t changed the way you think.
By facing what’s really going on in your inner world, it can have the most profound effects on your outer experience and make change really stick.
It’s the very thing that will catalyze inner transformation, and set you free of the thought patterns that are getting in the way of experiencing the reality that you would like to see.
It can be as simple as logging your thoughts down in a journal and then retracing them at the end of the day.
This will require some introspection of course, and through this self-study, you will begin to reap tremendous rewards, if you’re willing to put in the effort.
Once you’ve identified your thoughts, try to recall the feelings that were generated with them. Your feelings affect your energetic state, and this will amplify the intensity and speed of manifestation.
A lot of us tend to walk around on auto-pilot due to past conditioning, because that’s all we know. However, with awareness, you can break this cycle of repetitive thought patterns, and choose to think differently.
A daily meditation practice can also heal and neutralize, negative thought patterns so that you can live more present and create better experiences with your thoughts.
I hope this message empowers you to look within, and know that you have the power to change the trajectory of your year, your life, and ultimately, your new reality.
So you’ve gone through an enlightening, soul enriching, inner transformation. You’ve faced yourself down, and came out on the other side, reborn. You’ve cried, journaled, prayed, and meditated your brains out. You’ve pulled out the weeds one by one for new roots to spring forth.
You’ve done the work, and it’s been hard, but also incredibly liberating.
When the windows of perception are cleared, it’s amazing what you’ll begin to see in the room of your life that, up until now, seemed so dark.
This is what consciousness is all about. It’s about being lit up and awakening from the inside.
It’s knowing the difference between what is real and what is imagined.
The parts of you that you thought were broken, the parts that you feel are messy, those are the parts that heal with unconditional love, so that you can ultimately become a whole person.
When you find your internal harmony between the yin and the yang, and the balance between your strengths and weaknesses, you can make it all work together in a whole, functional manner with total acceptance.
You know better now, you’ve seen the light and there’s no turning back!
What a relief to discover, “I am actually perfect the way I am!”
Sometimes getting to this point can feel like ground zero, and you have to learn how to live your life in a completely new way. This can be wonderful, but it can also be a little overwhelming.
It’s only natural that you’ll stumble a bit along the way, and occasionally resort to old patterns, because you’re still in the middle of the process.
The process is a beautiful place to be, because that’s where you get to create your new story!
You don’t have the weight of your past, or whatever previously held preconceived notions of who you are, but rather you are now a blank canvas, ready to be painted by all the divine and infinite possibilities available to you!
How exciting, and even a tad scary, moving into uncharted territory, but each day you take a step, surrender with a leap of faith and know you are on the right path. Love surrounds you and supports you, and you are exactly where you need to be.
You will figure this out.
Be patient and gentle with yourself, and enjoy the journey along the way.
I once attended a comedy show in support of a client of mine who happens to be a fantastic comedian.
There were about 4 or 5 comedians that performed and totally had me in stitches. In fact, each performance had the natural ability to make fun of some of their own challenges in life.
And I thought to myself, ‘Wow, that’s power!‘
To take your own challenges and turn them into a comedy skit, make people laugh, and forget about their own, is an incredible gift.
I believe that comedians are healers in disguise.
The path to healing is a life-long process that will require a lot of patience and gentleness with yourself.
Throughout your life, you are constantly shedding away your past, your old habits, and those patterns that continue to surface in your life. There are so many layers of mental constructs, false beliefs and stories that are deeply rooted within that takes time, sometimes lifetimes to heal.
Just when you think I’ve got it, I’ve finally got it!, someone will say, or do something that can trigger you so deeply that pain (and many of your old patterns) can come back to haunt you.
Just when you think, I’ve met the one, you realize that it’s the same guy, but in a different suit.
Just when you think, I’m doing so well by eating healthy, you hit the local Tim Horton’s, look at the menu and order the same donut with the sprinkles on it.
It can be incredibly frustrating, but you are a human being, and you’re going to slip up.
And that’s okay.
If you can’t laugh at yourself on occasion, you’re taking life way too seriously.
There are times that you’re going to break your diet and put the weight back on until you stabilize.
You”ll believe your stories.
You’ll put your foot in your mouth sometimes.
You’ll skip the gym or yoga class, procrastinate, miss your meditation practice, stop your exercise regime, and the list goes on and on.
Because it’s never about the destination. It’s everything we learn throughout the journey.
One of the most important lessons that I have learned over the years is to be gentle with myself, laugh more, and lighten up!
I took myself way too seriously for so many years and fell into the trap of trying to be perfect.
The journey is not about perfection, it’s about being real with oneself and loving what comes up, even the emotions that we sometimes feel uncomfortable with.
Cause and effect is one of our greatest teachers. And when you can demonstrate more compassion to yourself for the divine lessons that are unfolding in your life, you’ll really be able to open yourself up to the divine.
Everyone makes mistakes. That’s how we learn.
If you can learn to accept your imperfections, forgive yourself more often, and change your dialogue of constant self-criticism so you can speak to yourself in a more loving way, miraculous shifts can occur in your life.
Allow yourself to be a human being, be willing to learn the lesson in it all, and try again next time.