So you’ve got a presentation to do first thing in the morning. You’ve been working your “Butt Off” on this project for a couple of weeks, getting all your ducks in order, crossing all your T’s, dotting all your I’s and then Wham! Your computer crashes, because your cat sat on the keyboard while you’re working.
Totally a freak accident, a cosmic disturbance of sorts, unexplainable beyond comprehension, totally not your fault, but guess what? Nobody cares, they’re only interested in you doing the damn thing.
I know, it sucks but it’s true
I once worked on a Consulting project for a client and what a World Class company. You could just see the congruency of their Values, Mission statement and Service all aligned. Go figure they made the Forbes list of one of the best companies to work for. True leadership at it’s finest.
One of the things that caught my attention in their Mission statement is “Own the Outcome”. I read it and thought, beautiful, how Empowering! And it’s true, we must own the outcome of our lives, we are totally responsible.
Now don’t get me wrong, stuff happens, I get it, not everything is our fault. In fact, there are seasons in life that can be so intense and adverse to the point that you think there is this massive conspiracy going on to sabotage you and take you down, been there, done that!
But we must find the courage to keep pressing and deliver amidst the obstacles in our way. That is the test of a true Supernova, Empress, No Excuses!
To some of you reading this, please don’t think I’m trying to be harsh here, I really do get it. And believe it or not, I’m a super, sensitive person with oodles of compassion, but we must be Real with ourselves in the sense that life happens but the show must go on, it’s just how it works.
I’ve often believed that children can teach us so much about follow through and doing what you’ve gotta’ do. For example, when your child has to go to karate class at 6pm on Thursdays, your child does not care that your boss blasted you at the office for doing a crappy, job on your presentation in front of your co workers I might add.
Your child, is determined to make that karate class so that he can hang out with his best friend, Billy and is expecting you to get him there on time, No Excuses!
Now I don’t have any children of my own yet, but I’m a proud auntie and I’ve observed my amazing brother follow through on his responsibilities as a father in utter, admiration. You see, my brother has taught me what commitment really is all about.
He really is exceptional and quite the consummate professional in his job, as a businessman, husband and a father to his children. Oh yes, my brother gets stuff done and makes No Excuses! And, makes his wife happy .
A man of valor, strength and humility. Oh yes, our dear father taught us well about honor, integrity and staying true to your values. I could just hear his voice ringing “Abby, you’re an Executive, Get it together, No Excuses!”
Thanks for your words of wisdom Daddy, you’re absolutely right (I’m totally a Daddy’s girl ). And I guess we can all take a lesson from this that we really do have the power to get stuff done. Especially when we’re “Uber” clear on our “Why” we become so fiercely, focused that the obstacles must step aside, oh yes, because the job must get done.
So join me, as we move into a brand New Year, in chanting “No Excuses” as a mantra in honor of staying true to our Dreams, Values and Commitments.
Cheers to getting the Job done!
I find myself reflecting on the incredible growth that has occurred in my life for the year 2013 with a heart full of thanks. 2013 for me was the year that I was pushed to the limit both personally and professionally. The Universe made it’s point very clear to me that it was time to lead with my Heart vs. my Mind, and what unravelled, was a massive, Spiritual Transformation. I discovered the “Real Me”.
You see, before you can truly Lead and Inspire, you must be prepared. You have to truly “Get it”, “Live it”, “Walk it” and “Overcome it”. You have to walk through the fire and Master yourself before you can become truly impactful in the lives of those that you Serve. You have to do the Work. And the work by the way, never ends as we blossom into the person that we are meant to be.
I want all of you to know from the bottom of my heart, that everything, and I mean everything that I write about, are things that I have actually experienced myself and have overcome.
I have taken the journey with you, and through my own Inner Transformation, my ultimate goal is to help guide you to becoming your own “Guru” so that healing can occur in your life. So that you can allow the “Real You” to emerge and play the Game of Life in the space of your “Authentic Self”. A path less travelled and scares most, but the road that leads to the most fulfillment.
My wish for all of you entering the year 2014, is to face life with Courage and Grace. Walk with a childlike, Faith that God’s got you covered, that you are Safe and that All is Well. Remember that you are Loved and not Forgotten, and more importantly, love the “Real You”.
May 2014 be filled with loads of love, truth, peace & joy.
Happy New Year my friends!
Gotta’ love the Christmas holidays, it’s a wonderful time of the year.
It’s a time to love, celebrate, share and be grateful for what you have. What it isn’t however, is a time to compare, judge yourself, “stress yourself out” beyond comprehension to please others and my personal favourite, to use the holidays as a benchmark to determine where you are in life.
I can recall many moons ago when I was a teenager, it was a BIG Deal if you had a date for New Year’s Eve. And if you didn’t have a date or your boyfriend didn’t step up the plate and do something special, you were not a “happy camper” nor were the other young ladies who held great expectations for this festive event.
Setting expectations for yourself and others on what the holidays “should be”, is treading on dangerous ground; it is an invitation to suffering.
You cannot control people or things, stuff happens in life, not everything is “cookie cutter” and the moment you come to this realization, you become more at peace with yourself, you accept and you surrender to things as IS. You start to see things beyond the body’s eyes.
Ahhhhh! And how refreshing it is to accept and surrender to things the way they are.
There is something empowering about accepting your truth and not resisting it by buying into an Illusion of the way things should be. A sense of peace comes over you, the “Real You” emerges and you fall into the flow of the Universe instead of wrestling with it in your mind, pushing and painting a fantasy of what your Ego tells you how things should be.
Here’s a humorous dose of wisdom by, Spiritual teacher Byron Katie where she quotes:
“When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100% of the time.”
Doesn’t get any clearer than that whether it be Christmas or any other holiday for that matter. You are where you are. It is what it IS.
There are people out there right now who may not have a family, a job, who may have an illness that they are battling with secretly, an addiction, on the verge of a divorce oh yes, these are real issues that happen all the time.
And so my Christmas wish for those of you reading this if it rings true in your life, is that you don’t use the holidays to judge yourself for where you are. It’s only one part of the whole picture, the whole story that is unfolding in your life, it does not define you.
When we judge ourselves harshly by focusing on all that’s wrong in our lives (which by the way is formed by our own perceptions in the mind and is not necessarily true), we invite sadness into our lives and before you know it, one thought turns into another and another and before you know it, you fall into an abyss of Self Pity.
Quite the contrary, I encourage you to focus on the things that are going well in your life and place ALL of your attention there. And if there are things that you’re not pleased with, accept them for the way they are in the now, and plan for the next time around.
There is no shortage of lifelines, life will always give you a second chance if you believe you are worthy and are willing to make that change.
Get fired up! Plan a mission, don’t look back, look ahead.
What lays before you is far more important than what’s behind you and the point of creation is Now, in how you choose your thoughts, feelings and actions towards the life that you want to create for yourself.
Cherish your family, friends and those who matter in your life and hold on to them tight. You would not be the person you are today without them. Spread the holiday cheer by thanking them for supporting you over the years, make them feel special.
And more importantly, love the “Real You”. You are perfect just the way you are, you are exactly where you need to be, forgive yourself, others, breathe, exhale, “Let it all go” and empty your vessel to allow your good to flow to you.
Now watch the Magic unfold in your life.
Happy holidays my friends and cheers to inner Peace, Love & Grace!