Gotta’ love the Christmas holidays, it’s a wonderful time of the year.
It’s a time to love, celebrate, share and be grateful for what you have. What it isn’t however, is a time to compare, judge yourself, “stress yourself out” beyond comprehension to please others and my personal favourite, to use the holidays as a benchmark to determine where you are in life.
I can recall many moons ago when I was a teenager, it was a BIG Deal if you had a date for New Year’s Eve. And if you didn’t have a date or your boyfriend didn’t step up the plate and do something special, you were not a “happy camper” nor were the other young ladies who held great expectations for this festive event.
Setting expectations for yourself and others on what the holidays “should be”, is treading on dangerous ground; it is an invitation to suffering.
You cannot control people or things, stuff happens in life, not everything is “cookie cutter” and the moment you come to this realization, you become more at peace with yourself, you accept and you surrender to things as IS. You start to see things beyond the body’s eyes.
Ahhhhh! And how refreshing it is to accept and surrender to things the way they are.
There is something empowering about accepting your truth and not resisting it by buying into an Illusion of the way things should be. A sense of peace comes over you, the “Real You” emerges and you fall into the flow of the Universe instead of wrestling with it in your mind, pushing and painting a fantasy of what your Ego tells you how things should be.
Here’s a humorous dose of wisdom by, Spiritual teacher Byron Katie where she quotes:
“When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100% of the time.”
Doesn’t get any clearer than that whether it be Christmas or any other holiday for that matter. You are where you are. It is what it IS.
There are people out there right now who may not have a family, a job, who may have an illness that they are battling with secretly, an addiction, on the verge of a divorce oh yes, these are real issues that happen all the time.
And so my Christmas wish for those of you reading this if it rings true in your life, is that you don’t use the holidays to judge yourself for where you are. It’s only one part of the whole picture, the whole story that is unfolding in your life, it does not define you.
When we judge ourselves harshly by focusing on all that’s wrong in our lives (which by the way is formed by our own perceptions in the mind and is not necessarily true), we invite sadness into our lives and before you know it, one thought turns into another and another and before you know it, you fall into an abyss of Self Pity.
Quite the contrary, I encourage you to focus on the things that are going well in your life and place ALL of your attention there. And if there are things that you’re not pleased with, accept them for the way they are in the now, and plan for the next time around.
There is no shortage of lifelines, life will always give you a second chance if you believe you are worthy and are willing to make that change.
Get fired up! Plan a mission, don’t look back, look ahead.
What lays before you is far more important than what’s behind you and the point of creation is Now, in how you choose your thoughts, feelings and actions towards the life that you want to create for yourself.
Cherish your family, friends and those who matter in your life and hold on to them tight. You would not be the person you are today without them. Spread the holiday cheer by thanking them for supporting you over the years, make them feel special.
And more importantly, love the “Real You”. You are perfect just the way you are, you are exactly where you need to be, forgive yourself, others, breathe, exhale, “Let it all go” and empty your vessel to allow your good to flow to you.
Now watch the Magic unfold in your life.
Happy holidays my friends and cheers to inner Peace, Love & Grace!
Want change? Examine what you tolerate. It really is that simple.
I once heard this by the incomparable, Darren Hardy, CEO of Success Magazine, who I have a mild, professional, crush on for his “tell it like it is” approach and his passion for the written word, totally my kinda’ guy .
But seriously, I want you to truly think about this statement, because when I heard it, it just made complete sense. It was a total Aha moment, like it was delivered on some Ancient Scroll by the Big guy or gal, for me at least.
You see, a New Year is approaching and I hear a lot of talk about wanting to make that change from losing weight, starting that BIZ, finding the partner of your dreams, blah, blah, blah. And if we’re honest here, we ALL do it, including myself.
But here’s the raw Truth of the matter. Until you are prepared to get to the Root of why you Do the things that you do, why you See things the way you do or Allow certain circumstances to occur in your life for that matter, you will not change AND you’ll keep repeating the same patterns, over and over and over again.
Because…..Are you ready for this?
Your habits are a window into your Unconscious beliefs
Let’s examine some of our lovely, habits shall we?
You want financial prosperity, but you spend like there’s no tomorrow, you want a bigger home, but you can’t clean the one you’ve got, you want a committed, loving relationship, but you’re not prepared to give of yourself, you want to lose weight, but you’re not prepared to change your diet or exercise, you want to succeed AND, you keep surrounding yourself with people who are not lifting you higher…..hmmmm. Time for some new friends, Maybe?
Ring true for anyone reading this? I bet it does.
You see, you Get what you Give in this life, and if you keep bowing to Mediocrity on a regular, it means that you will continue to operate in complete resonance with what you believe about yourself and what you deserve for that matter.
The Magical part about expanding your Awareness is, that once you Open Your Eyes, you will see that you have the Power to invite the experience that you want into your life simply by a shifting the perception of yourself.
And when see yourself as powerful, whole and complete, Excellence will permeate every cell of your being and you’ll start to operate in the space of your Higher Self, the “Real You”.
Translation – your tolerance level for straight up BS will diminish, Seriously!
I mean think about it for a moment. We are created in the image of God, so that means that we are born to succeed and Worthy of all the good that we desire. However, that means that we must rise Higher and BE More.
Here’s a dose of wisdom by the poet Rumi:
Maybe you are searching among the branches, for what only appears in the roots.
Oh yes, it all starts from within, you better believe it! And so having said that, you can run a “gazillion” marathons and transform your outer appearance, however, until you shift your Mindset you’ll probably fall off the wagon and resort back to your Old habits to realign with your belief system.
Just sayin’. Don’t shoot the messenger, it’s just how the Universe works. ://
So here are 5 Powerful Exercises for you to try while setting your Goals for 2014:
- Firstly, identify the areas of your life that you are completely utterly, annoyed with.
- Ask yourself quietly in Meditation “Who Am I”? Then wait for the response.
- Carve out a picture of your Ideal Self with crystal clarity.
- Imagine what it would Feel like to be your Ideal Self.
- Now look at your life and ask yourself if it is in Alignment with your Ideal Self.
I guarantee if you do this exercise and you truly want change, you will begin to Awaken to your Truth and Allow the “Real You” to emerge.
Cheers to a BS free 2014 and all things Amazing!
Have you ever worked with a boss that was constantly stalking your every move, while breathing down the back of your neck, gettin’ all up in your business? How did that make you feel? Can someone say claustrophobic? Annoyed perhaps, anyone?
Now shift to your own life and think about how the Universe feels when you keep meddling in the process by trying to dictate every, single, minute detail. Can someone say Control freak?
Especially when the Universe is actually working for you not against you. And here you are getting into Micro Manage mode, meddling with matters quite frankly that are none of your business.
I know this all too well, because I too lived this way for many years of my life. And after deeper reflection I realized that it was a Faith issue that I had. I separated myself from the Power within and told myself that nothing happens until I “Make it Happen”.
And you wanna know what?
It completely exhausted me and created collateral damage. And so I say moving forward, ditch the legalistic crap of how things “should be” and let loose a little. Loosten that tie, let that hair down dammit, allow your good to flow to you.
I love what author, Danielle Laporte says where she quotes so succinctly:
Over-planning kills Magic
Amen sista’. A truthbomb indeed.
You see, divine strategy occurs in the unseen world. And, it’s execution is far more sophisticated than we could ever imagine. We just have to get into agreement by aligning our thoughts, feelings and actions so that we can step into the Vortex for things to happen.
You may ask what do I mean by the Vortex? It’s that magical place, in the heavenly realms where all the super, cool stuff happens. All we’ve gotta do, is surrender, stick to the Job description, step aside and allow the professionals to take over.
Who are the professionals you may ask? The Cosmic Posse of Angels, Cosmos, Spirit Guides, Ascended Masters etc, etc.
I don’t know about you, but that makes me feel so special to say the least. To know that God’s got you covered, what a relief!
Doesn’t that sound a whole lot better than running a One band orchestra all by yourself while exhausting the crap out of you?
Here’s another profound, dose of wisdom from A Course in Miracles where it quotes:
I no longer need to be the Director of the Universe
Ahhh, sweet Surrender!
And the funny thing is, when you truly let go, stuff starts happening. And here, you did all that work for nothing, bless your heart.
We’re not in this thing alone my friends. All you have to do is BE who you “Really Are”, get into alignment with the Power within and watch the magic unfold.
Cheers to the sweet taste of Surrender