Ok, so you’re probably reading this headline and saying, huh? But stay with me for a moment.
I’m not talking about the Storytelling type here, like being a captivating speaker or a brilliant orator type. I’m talking about the friend of yours that you love dearly, but goes on and on when describing their “Situation”.
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who “Always” tells a story when making a point, and you’re sitting there Lost in Translation, like can we get to the point already? Well, there’s a lot more to it than a person who loves details and drama; it’s deeper than that.
It’s them building a case to protect their Reality in their minds. It’s them Justifying that their Ego is right, what they Believe is right and finally, what they See is right.
Whoa! You’re probably saying, that’s deep. Oh ya!
Now first of all, this isn’t about making any judgments, it’s an observation rather. It’s about us raising our level of Awareness so that we can see our patterns that continue to get in the way of us living in our Truth. Because when we live our Truth, we tap into our Authentic Self.
Here Are 3 Truths That I Want You To Marinate On In Your Minds:
- First of all, when you are secure with who you “Really Are”, there is no need to defend. You feel safe being you, you love being you. The need to defend or prove that you are right, shows a lack of Self Acceptance. And so the Ego steps up and takes centre stage to protect the illusion of your True self.
- The very fact that the Storyteller has to defend what they’re saying, implies that on a deeper level they believe that they are under “Attack”. And so, the Ego goes on “Overdrive” to protect the false image of themselves.
- Excessive storytelling also reveals of an Escape from reality. The need to live in a fantasy to protect the Truth from emerging. Which ultimately gives them a false sense of security.
I love what A Course in Miracles states, where it quotes:
My safety lies in my defenselessness
Meaning, that in truth you are Safe, therefore there is no need to defend.
It’s quite paradoxical, because on one hand they feel empowered and “Revved up” by defending themselves, but on the other hand they also feel defeated within by the amount of energy they dispend to protect themselves.
This creates a tremendous amount of angst and disharmony within until they learn to centre themselves and live in the space of their True self.
Here’s another observation for you to think about.
Ever notice when the Storyteller is speaking incessantly, the moment you interrupt them to make a suggestion, they throw in a “But” and refuse to hear what you’ve got to say?
Well guess what?
That’s a full indication of the intensity of the Inner Struggle going on within themselves between illusion vs. Truth. In that they will do Anything to protect their fantasy and so “But” really means “Back Off”.
Crazytown, right!?! That’s how much we protect the paradigms within.
But there’s good news. Awareness is half the battle and once you have that, it will take practice to shift your paradigms, but it is possible. And if you’re committed to making that change, there is an Amazing person inside of you waiting to break FREE.
Let’s make the commitment together to have the courage to face our Truth and step into who we “Really Are”.
The world is waiting!
What would happen if Oprah tried to be Lady Gaga? What would happen if Steve Jobs took a regular job? What would happen if you could be YOU, audaciously?
I mean, recklessly, Bold and unapologetic to the world about who you are. Wouldn’t that be an Amazing feeling? To be Free without explanation, to be Safe without feeling that we must defend ourselves, to be Naked without feeling shame, to be You without comparison.
How liberating and fiercely, courageous but often suppressed by many wonderful people for fear of being judged, unwanted and not accepted.
I know this feeling all too well, as I too, was one of those people who suffered, silently behind the scenes, crippled by the “disease to please”, shiny on the outside, overly diplomatic, and “too nice”, all in the name of not trying to rock the boat, while walking with a secret, “Unconscious” agenda to be loved and accepted.
Oh yes, I did.
I said all the “right” things, suppressed my emotions to please others, took on the burdens of people at the detriment of my own happiness, dimmed my “sparkle” to allow those who were “Insecure” to shine. I even told myself unconsciously that I was some self sacrificial, “martyr” in life and said Yes to every invitation and to every task although I was overwhelmed. Pheww! Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it? And it was.
Strike a cord with anyone? I’m sure it does….
Here’s what I’ve discovered in life, it takes sooo much energy wearing a Mask to the world, dancing around the perimeter of who you “Really Are”, in a world that only truly wants you to “Be You”. And yet we tell ourselves that we must become a carbon copy of “they”, and who are “they” anyways?
Who calls the shots and determines who we should be? Have you ever thought about that for a moment? I love the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, where he quotes:
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
How freeing it is, to fully express the “Real You”, the person who you were created to be. Ahhh……how refreshing it is.
And so, I’ve now come to the conclusion that “they” is an invisible, Board of Directors that we aim to please, so crazy isn’t it? And guess what? In Truth, “they” have no bearing on who we are. We’ve only trained our minds to believe that this so called “illusion” of power exists.
And once we lift this veil of “deception” from our eyes, we will see that the only responsibility that we have in this life is to be who we truly are, “full out” and that we are Enough, as IS, flaws and all.
How beautiful to know that you are perfect just the way you are.
So I say be the following:
Be weird, dance off beat, shine in your glory, wear mis-matched colours, live out loud, be smart, be sensitive, feel, speak your truth, express your own faith, whatever that may be, march to the beat of your own drum, say No to what doesn’t feel right, let go of the need to be “liked”, be messy, life IS. Allow the “Real You” to emerge.
Cheers to being Bold my friends!
Ok so Quick…..
If I were to ask you to list 5 things that you LOVE about your Job, I could bet that a lot of you would hum and ha and Zone right in on all the things that you can’t stand.
I know this because I’ve observed the same response for the past 13 years in the Executive Search BIZ.
And guess what?
I would have to say that 9 times out of 10, a candidate will get right into listing all of the company bureaucracy, politics, and not to mention the “Drama”.
Don’t get me wrong, some of it may be true, but because I’m a student of Human Behaviour and a lover of psycho babble “stuff”, in 5 minutes flat, I’m able to determine where a person is energetically just by the order of their response from listing what’s Negative first, to what’s Positive last.
Yes indeed, I’ve come to believe, that most people LOVE bashing what they Hate about their Jobs. And they do it with such enthusiasm, zeal and gusto I might add.
Why is that, I’ve often asked myself? What makes a person automatically zoom in on all of the Negative, stuff first. Are you telling me that there’s not ONE thing that you like?
So here’s a word of Advice. Promote what you Love and stop bashing what you Hate. Let me explain Why.
The more you Focus your attention on all that’s wrong, you Magnify the problem further, AND you create a wedge between where you are and where you wanna be in your Career.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know that sometimes we may have to accept a position that isn’t the most Ideal, however, it’s all in Perception.
Say if you Shifted the way you view things by looking at the Whole picture, and that your current position is part of the puzzle taking you from A to Z.
In other words, instead of forming a linear, perception in your mind of your current Job from a place of “Lack”, why not view it from a more holistic, approach.
I’ve now come to the conclusion, that it’s this linear, false, view of perception that creates so much angst and frustration for people.
And here’s the thing, if you truly want to step into who you “Really Are” in the realm of your Career & Life, you’ve simply got to shift your perception of yourself to a Whole place and not from a place of Lack.
What that means in blatant terms is…….be Grateful .
You see, Gratitude is powerful, it’s an activator and helps you to see yourself as whole and not lacking anything at all. And once you feel Good within about all that’s going for you, you position yourself to receive More to be happy about.
So on that note…..
Here’s 3 Simple Ways On How To LOVE The Crap Out Of Your Job:
- When someone asks you about your Job, hone in on all the good stuff 1st, and then list out the not-so-good stuff.
- Whenever you have a tough day, and we ALL have them, isolate the incident as a “One Off” by looking at the whole picture.
- When you catch yourself daydreaming about your ideal Career, remind yourself that your current Job is a necessary step in the process to achieving your Dream.
I guarantee, that if you get in the practice of this, things will start shifting in your favour, opportunities will start popping up, AND you’ll get a higher Call Back Rate Putting you, one step closer to where you truly wanna be.
Cheers to new perceptions, and a whole lotta’ Gratitude!