Sometimes, life can seem pretty tough.
The golden opportunity that you thought was a level up, didn’t quite work out; the beautiful relationship that you thought would last a lifetime didn’t etc.
These things happen, change is certain, in fact, none of us are absolved from curve balls in life however, we can choose to see things differently.
We all have a choice to see through the lens of love or fear.
When you peer through the lens of love, everything is happening for your highest good.
And through the lens of fear, that you are a victim of happenstance.
Bitterness hurts, my friends.
It creates a negative vortex around you that puts a sign on your forehead for the Universe that says, “I want more problems.”
Plus, it’s a heavy energy to carry, which is not an empowering way to live.
On the other hand, love heals and can trigger what needs to be brought to the surface for examination.
Love sees the whole picture, and views every challenging situation as a divine lesson with greater meaning. It molds you, pruning and refining you into the magnificent person that you really are.
Loves asks, “What can I learn from this experience? In what way can I learn more about myself based on my reaction?”
There is always a shared accountability in every encounter or experience that you have.
By taking responsibility for your part in the experience, you shift from being the victim, to being empowered.
Nothing can be accomplished with a heart that is closed off.
This perpetuates suffering and spreads density within.
An open heart, on the other hand, creates space for everything beautiful to unfold in your life.
Ask yourself these questions when you find yourself holding onto a grievance in your heart:
1) What value do I get by holding onto this offence?
It’s really twisted, but somehow we feed into the belief that pain adds value in our lives. Or that by holding onto a grudge, it is revengeful. But this only hurts ourselves in the end. When you love yourself, why on earth would you want to hang onto that pain?
2) What would love do in this situation?
Ask yourself what would love do? Does love punish? Is it full of revenge? Only fear wants to do all of the above because fear interprets itself as being under attack whereas love sees itself as always safe and protected.
3) Am I getting what I want?
Most of us have hidden desires of the heart; we’re only human, after all. So ask yourself if the grievance is getting in the way of the life you want to live. You’ll find with deeper reflection that it is in some way as it keeps you shackled in your past, leaving no room for new experiences to come in.
Every single person is worthy of a beautiful, fulfilling life.
However, it starts with having an open heart and the willingness to learn and see things differently.
Cheers to joy, lightness, and freedom!